thanks for responding yes heaps going on still.
I have not contacted her co-worker to meet, I was going to then couldn’t find number I had saved, I am thinking this may be a sign not to contact him.
After I sent he below texts she is now angry with me and said she would be happy to sell house immediately and part. I don’t know if I should drop this subject and try and work on co parenting best things for kids, as I feel she is angry because she does not want all our families and friends to find out about him and their relationship. We are about to end everything and on one hand i want her to admit it and me talk to him, so I have closure and to make him know what his actions have contributed to, but I want the best outcome for my kids which would be amicable co parenting. If I talk to him and it blows up, that opportunity may be gone. I am also worried if I don’t, I will forever regret facing him and finding out his position, which would also may make my wife admit to everything. Really unsre…..see below latest communications. She is due back home tomorrow and I have booked a unit for a week to think….
I text her the below as I am struggling with her denying their relationship, still saying just friends only.
No I have said I have caused things, I never blamed you for my actions and have been accountable and deeply remorseful. You will be not been honest about your actions or accountable for your involvement with Richard and the impact it has had with everything. You have lied to me, probably to him too about us/me and him lying to his wife too. The ongoing relationship
of you both has added hurt to our kids, impacting the spouse at home on both sides, there has never been any happiness that could come out of your ongoing relationship with him, for our families.and you still deny it all
Here Response: “We are just friends, there is no relationship”
So I sent the below: and she still denies
Everything you guys did/doing together was/is a relationship, this and everything in my text is real with major impacts, read it again don’t ignore it all, be honest about it for once, I’ve owed my errors, own what you have been doing and stop lying to yourselves about effect it has had to both your families