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Topic: My partner sleeps all day except when working

2 posts, 0 answered
  1. elhobe92
    elhobe92 avatar
    1 posts
    29 December 2019

    Hi everyone. I'm really starting to get hopeless and just don't know what steps to take. I am deeply in love with my partner and we have been in a committed relationship for over 2 years and we have been living together for 18 months.

    Our biggest relationship problem (if not the only one) is that he sleeps all the time, especially on weekend. As I am writing this, it is 4:45pm and he is still asleep (so he has been in bed for over 18 hours) . This is ruining our relationship - basically because I just feel like I'm single most of the time. He also avoids outings and never organises anything.

    He does have a history of depression (and PTSD) and has social anxiety. We have completely cut alcohol from our lives because it has given him suicidal thoughts in multiple occasion. He seems to be ok with the fact that he sleeps all day and not care about how I feel or even gets frustrated that I want him to do something other than sleeping. So from his perspective everything is fine. so how do I go about this? I have been thinking about going to see his doctor with or without him to discuss this and see what we can do. My partner is also against couple therapy because he thinks we are fine, so taking him somewhere seems somewhat challenging.

    This situation is making me feel alone and hopeless and is really starting to weigh on my mental health. Should I step back and perhaps move out and live in a house that feels more alive?

  2. Bee1998
    Bee1998 avatar
    28 posts
    9 January 2020 in reply to elhobe92

    Hi elhobe92,

    I just want to start off by saying that you are not alone. I am currently going through the same situation with my partner of 2 years. All he seems to care about it work, work, work, then when he gets home, he is too tired to spend time with me, and falls asleep at ridiculous hours of the day. I know exactly how you’re feeling. It makes you feel completely unwanted.

    I can’t really give you any advice on whether to stay with your partner or not, as i’m non in your shoes, and I’m sure you love him a hell of a lot.

    I just wanted you to know that there is someone out here who can relate , and I’m here to chat whenever you need.

    -B x

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