Any advice welcome
yet again I have left my mums house in tears
my sister is a complete narcissist and has my mum completely under her spell
she is always pointing out flaws in me, and playing the victim, no one does anything for her, no one protected her, and she uses guilt to get people around her to bend to her every whim
she has upset me many times and I have tried to keep my distance, but she lives with my mum, whom I try to see every week.
sh wanted to have a chat, and told me that I had upset her, and that I am not making the effort to keep the family unit together, she whispers in mums ear all the time, causing friction between us, she has accused me of being jealous of her, and not supporting her, I am sick of being there when she wont help herself.
i mentioned some things that had upset me. All she did was threw it back at me saying she didn't mean it and it was my fault,
i admit I have said some things out of line in the past but this is purely down to frustration
she saya she wants to go out as a family but my partner doesn't like the way she treats me and won't go, that is now my fault as I am not making him make the effort
I think the worse thing about this is that I feel I cannot go and see my mum, whom I once had a very close relationship with as she is always there
i got married,9 months later she did, I looked at a house I wanted didn't get it, she bought one in the same street, I moved away, she followed, she has messed up her own life but still plays the victim,
she is always talking about herself and how fabulous she is, but won't admit to it
apart from cutting myself off completely from this drama what can I do, I try not to let her get to me, but every time she still does
this is not half of the story but it will give you an idea, I just can't keep doing this