My father died 15 years ago, my mother is quite old and has recently been told by her doctor that her body is shutting down
My elder brother lives with her, he has never really worked, is a bully and is quite controlling
He convinced Mum to make changes to her will after Dad passed away giving himself sole power of attorney, enduring gardianship, executor of her will and sole trustee of a family trust.
She told me about this a year ago, I flew to her state so I could go with her to speak with her solicitor and to see what changes could be made, unfortunately she told my him and he went ballistic
No changes have been made, our relationship that was once caring and loving has ceased completely, neither of us willing to ring the other
The reasons why I won't are:
She broke her promise to my sister and I, guaranteeing that her children will be forced to contest her will in an attempt to correct the wrong
My father would never have left someone who he described as a parasite in charge of their combined estate, ever
Mum is more concerned with an outward appearance that he is successful rather than acknowledge he is a parasitic bully
She won't ring me because she feels its my responsibility to be there in this time of her need (I am the family fixer-upper) and blames me for causing so much anxiety because I think we all matter equally and her estate should reflect what Dad would have wanted too
What do I do?