My husband and I have been together for 14 years and have 1
child. Over the years I have had some body image issues and have not always
been forthcoming in answering his requests for sexual intimacy.
Then about 12 to 18 months ago, it is hard to say exactly when
it started, he stopped asking at all, and earlier this year I tried to speak to
him about it and it just turned into a big argument.
I feel totally alone in my marriage, he does not even
attempt basic intimacy anymore, like a kiss good morning or good night, no
holding hands, we hardly speak at all, there is no discussion on futures or
anything past some of the most basic pleasantries. We both work, and so when I
get home, he does not talk to me, doesn’t ask me how my day was, I need to always
ask him how his day was and things like that.
When he talks to his mates, on the computer, he sounds happy
enough but when I go to talk to him it is like I am annoying him or something,
it is short sharp responses, to make matters worse even something simple like going for a walk as a family he now avoids.
I feel so lonely it keeps me up some nights and I can’t
sleep. What should I do?