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Topic: Advice on depressed husband moving back in with us after 6 month separation.

  1. Redhuta
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    10 May 2018
    Well I have had a roller coaster 6 months with my depressed husband leaving. I have got a long thread about this however I thought I would start this new one. I did move with my two daughters to a smaller place and he has been spending so much time with us over the last couple of months.We spoke the other night and he wants to come back however he is a bit anxious about things going wrong. I understand his anxiety does make him see things in a much more exaggerated manner in my opinion however I am not pushing him. I did tell him that if things were to go wrong we could simply seperate again? I feel like I dont want to pressure him or even sugar coat things however I am not sure how to support his anxiety. The kids will be ecstatic and he has done a lot of work with his psychologist and he is on a great does of medication. He seems like the old man I married however after 6 months I feel we need to get to know each other again romantically as there has been none of that over the separation. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
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    12 May 2018 in reply to Redhuta

    Hello Redhuta

    I did a quick read of your other thread to see how things have been going for you before responding. I see that Dools, Quirkywords, Croix and Mish plus others have given you a lot of support since the end of last year.

    It's good that you've come back to see what we have to say. He certainly sounds like he is working hard to be a good father and partner. At the same time, I understand your hesitance, especially since you've also been going through a difficult time yourself.

    To be honest, I would not be rushing into just living together again. I'm not sure what some of your other supporters would have to say, but I'd suggest you try going on a few 'date nights' (just you and him) together. See how these go. Perhaps use these times as an opportunity to discuss / explore your expectations and his expectations if you were to get back together again? I wouldn't rush it. I know it will help your own depression and anxiety to have stability and security. However, I would consider the risks of previous behaviours re-emerging. It's only been 6 months. So giving it a little longer would be my personal preference.

    Hope this helps. I'm sure others will pop in to give you their view.

    Kind regards

    PamelaR

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    12 May 2018 in reply to Redhuta

    Redhutta,

    As soon as I read the title of this thread I thought of you .

    You have been through a lot in the last 6 months and I have seen you grow in confidence.

    I think this is a decision for the two of you, but I too feel not rushing into things just yet maybe a good idea. Would having him stay over from Friday night to Sunday night be feasible? I also like Pamela's idea of a date night as I assume over these last months you have not had a chance to go out out alone or to be together.

    It is hard after you have improved because you are anxious that you may one relapse again. Having a support network for you both so if there are any hiccups you can talk then through. Also if he is worried about a particular thing affecting his moving back in going smoothly, you could discuss and work out ways to make it work.

    Feel free to keep posting as I always like to hear how you are going.

    Quirky

  4. Redhuta
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    16 May 2018 in reply to quirkywords

    Thanks so much Pamela and Quirky.

    Great suggestions and we will take it very slowly which is the way we both want to do it. We have clear boundaries that we have clearly discussed and even written down to refer to at a later stage if need be. He really does find Writting an easy way to communicate these things which I have now realised is much more productive.

    We are telling our daughters tonight so they will be thrilled especially after such a difficult past 6 months.

    I know our relationship will be very different from now on and I hope we are able to find happiness once again.

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    16 May 2018 in reply to Redhuta

    Hi Redhuta

    Good on you. Just remember, you are STRONG!!

    Come back here if you need support at any time

    Kind regards

    PamelaR

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    16 May 2018 in reply to Redhuta

    Redhutts

    I feel it is kind people like you who have gained strength and information from reaching out and doing everything to make sure you have looked after yourself and others.

    I think writing things down is a help and therapy as well as putting words on paper helps sort out ones thoughts.

    All the best as you face a new part of your life.

    Update us any time you feel like doing so.

    Kind thoughts

    Quirky

  7. MishnLinc
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    17 May 2018 in reply to quirkywords

    Oh Redhuta, I just logged on and seen your thread and it made me so happy for you. I am glad that you are trying to work it out. We are not there yet, although we are still trying, he is still in his share house but has told me he wants to come home soon. We have a plan in place with his pyschologist but it worries me as we havent had any sort of intimacy at all in 4 months. he has been gone 5 months. Its just hard. I would be taking it slowly as well. We have been talking about him staying in the spare room for now when my husband returns. Its a little way off though.

    good luck with everything.

    Mish and Linc

  8. Redhuta
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    19 May 2018 in reply to MishnLinc
    Thanks Misch and I am hoping that you both can work towards to being together. I think its all about doing what is right for both of you. I think for us its a matter of really communicating and really being open to trying to understand each other’s perspectives. I have learned so much about myself in these last 6 months as I am sure my husband has too.
  9. Redhuta
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    8 June 2018 in reply to Redhuta
    Just a quick update and so far all seems well. My daughters are both seeing my psychologist because I think the separation caused them quite grief and they seem to be almost worried there will be a repeat. My psychologist says it does happen especially with children however I believe in supporting them through this transition. My husband seems much more relaxed and we take things very slowly. No intimacy as we are both still not ready and it does not worry me because its just nice to be a family again at the moment.
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    8 June 2018 in reply to Redhuta

    Redhuta,

    Thanks so much for your update. I really appreciate you taking time to let us know what is happening with your family.

    It is good your daughters are seeing your psychologist

    You are sensible being careful by taking things easy .

    I am pleased you are so supportive to everyone and that you can enjoy being a family again.

    Quirky

  11. Redhuta
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    24 July 2018 in reply to quirkywords

    Just a quick update.

    We are doing ok. My husband seems so much at ease these days and I know he feels glad to be home. He is still quite reserved however he has never been an over emotional person anyway so its really not anything new. We went out for a date night the other night and it was nice to chat without the kids. We have still not been intimate however I am not fussed as I have had a few health issue anyway ( I had cancer 11 years ago) so I am really exhausted due to being anemic. We are both really focusing on trying to keep fit. He is really good at helping out and has taken over all his jobs he did before he left( he always helped a lot with housework). Also it nice to have him when the kids are arguing or playing up as that is exausting so he is very supportive and takes over when they are are pushing me to my limits.He is about to start seeing his psychologist and we do take each day as it comes. We are all in a much happier place.

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    24 July 2018 in reply to Redhuta

    reputation,

    It is wonderful to get your updates and this latest ones is very reassuring and hopefully will give hope to couples struggling .

    You have been open to suggestions and worked hard with your medical team and been there for your husband. you both have faced problems but worked through them.

    I appreciate the way you have kept in touch and taken us on your journey.

    Your children have two parents who enjoy each other’s company and are caring parents.

    Thanks again for sharing your experience with others here.

    I wish you and your family all the best on this journey.

    Quirky

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    24 July 2018

    redhuta,

    I thought of something I wanted to ask after I posted.

    I wonder after all you have been through what is one piece of advice you would give someone where you were when you wrote your very first post.?

    Just thought you would have insights that may help others struggling.

    Were there things you would do differently?

    Thanks again for your honesty.

    Ps in my previous post, auto corect turned Redhuta to reputation in case you were wondering.

    Quirky

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    25 July 2018 in reply to Redhuta

    Hi Redhuta

    I echo Quirky’s words. So good to have you come back and update us all on how you are going. It’s also good things look like they are working for you. Wonderful.

    Yes, it would be good if there’s anything you can share to help others in similar situations?

    Keep up the great work!

    PamelaR

  15. Redhuta
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    31 July 2018 in reply to PamelaR
    I have taken a bit of time to really think about the one piece of advice I would give is to step back and give them space. I think as the partner who is supporting and especially as a woman we want to feel we are helping and letting go is not what you think of as helping but it is.
    I remember my psychologist years ago telling me that in his opinion he always thought my husband needs 6 months alone to really get the time to deal with his depression. Even now I cannot understand why someone would push away someone they love but now I do understand they need to do it. Its almost like he needed to punish himself to feel better which sounds strange but its what happened. In the middle of the ordeal he would not listen or even want to see reason and if it were not for my psychologist working with me and helping me understand I would not have got through like I did.
    I knew it was very important to look after myself and I also knew that regardless I would be okay and sort of came to peace with being apart permanently . I focused on my kids/work and myself and even now I realised how hard it was but I made it. Our relationship is not perfect but no one is. I compromise and so does my husband. He asked for me to understand that if he needs time away to not make him feel bad about that I now I understand and give him that breathing space. I asked for him to never loose his cool around the kids and to continue to take medication and see his psychologist and he agreed. I am sticking to my guns about that as he can get neglectful and I will never let him not take care of his mental health again.

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    1 August 2018 in reply to Redhuta

    Redhuta,

    Thanks so much for taking to time to think of advice to give for someone going through the same thing as you did.

    I think giving space can be hard thing to do as well as have a loved one push you and their family away.

    You have learnt a lot and are stronger for it. I appreciate how you were willing to share the ups, and downs, the things that were very difficult and the things that worked well.

    You realised you need to look after yourself if you were to help your husband.

    It is a long journey and you are still on it.

    I feel you are flexible enough to try different things and try things that will help.

    Thanks again for you willingness to share your life with others.

    Quirky

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  17. Redhuta
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    3 October 2018 in reply to quirkywords

    Its been quite sometime since I have posted but just a quick update.

    We have been back together for about 4 months now. Although we are living in a small apartment ( I signed a 12 month lease) things have been good. My husband has changed therapists and starts next week seeing one more specialised in families which I think will be good for him. There has been a couple of incidents where I know he has maybe felt himself slip into that cycle of anger ( nothing like before we separated) and I can see that conscious attempt to change his behaviour. It means the world to me as I know it will always be a constant battle but he loves me and I truly think he understands how destructive it can be not only to me but also to our children. My second daughter, the one closer to him also started to develop anxiety. I took her to my psychologist who said it was common with children who experience a break up and when parents get back together as its almost like a delayed reaction and a fear of it happening again. She has progressed very well and has learned some great coping strategies. I do find that I am very apprehensive of getting too emotionally close to my husband so as a family its all lovely but as a couple we have a lot of work to do. I am going to see about counseling too as I almost have this wall up so I know I need to work on that. I am weaning off medication as my doctor feels that now my health/iron are all in great shape I don’t need to continue. I agree and the meds were great when all was overwhelming however I now hate the fact I feel very flat. I am usually a vivacious, energetic, outgoing person and the meds almost take that “happy” away from me too. So I look forward to feeling more myself soon.

    Anyway that is what is happening at the moment with me. Hope all is well with everyone.

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    4 October 2018 in reply to Redhuta

    redhutta,

    Thanks for keeping us up to date with what is happening in your life.

    I think it is important your husband now understands how his angry moods can affect his family and is consciously trying to change his behaviour and get help.

    Also it is good that your 2nd daughter is getting help for her anxiety.

    I can understand how you feel it would be a lot of work for you to feel close to your husband again.

    I hope the counselling helps and the weaning of the medication goes smoothly with out side effects an sthat you are feeling more yourself soon.

    Redhutta, I have always admired your honesty, your insights and your ability to share with others what you have learnt on your journey.

    Quirky

  19. Redhuta
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    12 October 2018 in reply to quirkywords

    Thanks Quirkywords.

    I think the biggest lesson I have learned is that space is key and to trust the advice that professionals give you.

    I think its so hard to give someone suffering depression space because instinctively you want to comfort and almost smothered them. I leaned to look after myself and my kids and trust that ultimately things will turn out the way they are suppose too. Setting realistic boundaries is also essential. I found posting in her very comforting and therapeutic when things were very dark so I am grateful for all the support :)

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    12 October 2018 in reply to Redhuta

    Redhutta,

    Thanks for your reply.

    It is an important lesson you have learnt to give space to someone with depression and to trust the advice of professionals.

    Trusting that things will turn out well, must be so hard when things are not going well.

    I am glad that posting here has helped and feel free keep us updated as your posts are helping others in a smiler position.

    Quirky

  21. Redhuta
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    9 June 2019 in reply to quirkywords

    Well its been quite some time since I have been here. II hope everyone is doing well but I also thought I would give a quick update.

    My husband and I have been together now for 1 year after the separation. There is a lot more communication however there are still issues as per any normal couple however we are both aware on how to communicate which is key. My husband is going to see a physiatrist which he has never done before. it was during a session that we went to with a child physiatrist as my younger daughter has mild anxiety, and this doctor suggested he also see one after asking him questions about his childhood.I hope that his medication is changed as he has no sex drive and this is the hardest part and he agrees so I know he wants to change this too. I have been trying to find threads where people have found success in this area as I know it cause a huge hole in our relationship. Its so sad as he was not like this and although its not like we were ever rabbits so to speak I really miss my old husband.

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    10 June 2019 in reply to Redhuta

    Redhuta,

    Thanks so much for your update.

    There are threads about me not having a sex drive fore different reasons.

    For me, when I was manic I was hypersexual and then when I was on medication I did lose any desire but I realised all my adult life I had been either high or low and never knew what my drive was. I know everyone is different. It took me a while to work it out. I think for some men it is different as there is a lot of pressure on them to perform in many ways . I know where men have after a vasectomy have lots of trouble talking about what has happened to their bodies.

    I hope the medication can be worked out and your husband has a chance to talk freely about how he feels.

    Quirky

  23. Redhuta
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    10 November 2019 in reply to quirkywords

    Hi All,

    I thought I would drop in and also gather some advice if possible?

    Firstly we have moved into a bigger place and we also got a puppy which has been such a positive effect on everyone especially the kids. He has been a welcome addition and he is especially helping my youngest with her anxiety.

    My husband and I are doing well as parents and all is fine in that front. He started seeing a physiatrist who in fact has diagnosed him with anxiety rather than depression and is in the process of changing meds. I am so grateful this time he is in the hands of a specialist than a GP from a medical centre that he constantly changes.

    This has also brought other issue that maybe I have put on the back burner and I suppose I too find very hard to deal with so I have always found activities/or ways to fill the voids. The main one is intimacy and affection. As the years have gone on any sort of affection is not directed to me but rather my daughters. When they were young to be honest it seemed natural but as they have gotten older I always just thought it would one day be directed to me. I have mentioned this previously and he makes an attempt for a few weeks and then its long forgotten with the pressures of life/work etc. My 16 year old is now aware and has asked me why her father never shows affection? I suppose I have always just thought it would change ( optimism is my second name) yet it does not. I wait with any appointment he has with his psychiatrist that some new revelation or the start of a new med would bring his emotions towards me back but I am always left waiting. Last week after an appointment he told me that he discussed why he is unable to show me emotion ( or any other partner) however he finds it so easy to do so to his daughters. I don’t know why but it was that admission that was like a knife straight through my heart. I felt like something inside me died. I have been to see my counsellor who thinks I am grieving and that I need to now make some plans to look after my self and my emotional health. I think its the realisation that my life moving forward now is a life without intimacy.and the only way I could get the intimacy I need is to leave him or to have an affair. Just feel exasperated and hurt 😔

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    11 November 2019 in reply to Redhuta

    Redhuta,

    Thanks for your latest feedback.

    I can feel the sadness in you writing when you have worked so hard, for so long and yet feel so exasperated and hurt.

    The topic of lack of intimacy in relations has been discussed a lot on the forums but every case is poignant and different. It is lovely your husband is affectionate to his daughters but that must be so painful when he can not show you any affection.

    I have been both sides of the coin, the one who couldn't give any intimacy and affection and the one who craved it but was not given it. That was with 2 different people and it is so difficult on either side but until I was the one with someone not able to show me affection I realised how your self esteem is not existant.

    I have no words of wisdom but you have put so much effort into this relationship, I suppose are you wondering is there any more energy to try again, left?

    Quirky

  25. Redhuta
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    12 November 2019 in reply to quirkywords

    Thanks Quirkywords.

    The counsellor I have been speaking to did say I am grieving so I am very withdrawn and just very sad.

    I am in the process of putting in place a way of me just moving forward removing myself from being his “carer” which is exhausting. I think focusing on myself now is important so it will be a wake up call when I am no longer alway making sure he is ok emotionally. Thank goodness I work and have a lot of friends therefore its time to put myself number 1 again. Our daughters are older now too so much easier than when they were little,

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    13 November 2019 in reply to Redhuta

    Redhuta,

    Thanks for you reply. I wrote a long reply yesterday but my computer decided to freeze and I lost it.

    Somwill keep this short.

    I am glad have friends and support and can look after yourself and make you a priority .

    You have been through a lot over the year or two .

    I have mentioned before that your posts give hope and a a realistic outlook to people in a similar situation.

    You know there is support here and I am always interested in hearing how your life is going.

    Quirky

  27. Redhuta
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    19 September 2021 in reply to quirkywords
    Hi All,
    Well, I am back, and unfortunately, my husband seems to believe that his anxiety is too high, and he should move out again. However, this has come out ou to the blue today. My daughter found some dating apps on his phone, and he told me he was planning on leaving after my eldest finished her HSC. He was contacted by a woman he met on a dating app years ago and chatting online. He seems to think it's not cheating, but I feel it is, and I have said I would move out because I think he needs to have the time with his daughters, and I need to go and, this time, look after myself. I am exhausted, sad, but surprisingly calm? We are in Sydney, and the lockdown has been challenging; however, he does not express his anxiety. He has not seen his psychiatrist for over six months, and he was doing so well, but it feels he has given up. Our relationship, I thought, had been fine. WE do not have sex, which is mainly something we have just slipped into due to his lack of desire and my going through menopause and probably giving up as the rejection hurts so much.

    I cannot move out till after lockdown, and the thought of having to separate again is so sad, but I know this would be it. I just cannot come back. I have asked him to see his psychiatrist and see our marriage counsellor set him up emotionally to deal with our daughters. Financially it makes more sense to me to move in with family than for him to rent another place.

    He said the woman he speaks to was going through marriage problems, so they bonded over that, but he has never actually met her? I find this strange, but apparently, she is now separated.
    He said he had been very stressed with our daughter, arguing that I am the disciplinarian in this family?
    I am so tired
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    20 September 2021 in reply to Redhuta

    Hi redhuta,

    Thanks for keeping us up to date but am sorry the news is so sad.

    I know through your posts over a couple of years that you have tried so hard to make your marriage work.
    Do you think he may change his mind as he just announced it.? Is he depressed.?

    I can feel your exhaustion through your words.

    It does seem sad for me as an outsider knowing how hard you have all worked over the years.

    Will he go to the marriage counsellor with you.?

    Is the main reason he wants to leave because of this woman he met online?

    It is good to hear from you andI can’t believe it has been 22 months since I posted here. My life has changed a lot too.

    Did covid affect your relationship at all?

    Are you still getting support and how is your health.

    I am asking question so I can learn more, just swear what you can ?

  29. Redhuta
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    20 September 2021 in reply to quirkywords

    He said the woman he speaks to was going through marriage problems, so they bonded over that, but he has never actually met her? Apparently, she is now separated. According to him, she reached out about six months ago to see how our relationship was going? He said their relationship is plutonic, and they discuss various things, and he has confided in her the issues in our intimacy?
    He said he had been very stressed with our daughter, arguing that I am the disciplinarian in this family? Covid has intensified everything with all at home!
    I asked if he felt it was betrayal discussing my personal life with her, and he said no. I explained that I did not feel that way and that it was very upsetting to me. He is a very private person and does not talk to many people. He said he had never heard this woman's voice? I am probably not so trusting and feel no woman would be talking to a married man online about his problems if there was not something there for her? He then told me it's also boredom and told me he has been watching porn at night too? I was happy about the porn, which surprised me as he has no desire to have sex any more, but I saw it as a positive so that he still actually thinks about sex.
    We talked a lot last night, and I was so upset; and I think he was surprised and said he wanted to see the psychiatrist. I said I believe discussing our issues should be done with a medical professional, not a stranger he met three years ago on a dating site.
    First thing this morning, he asked me not to make plans to leave till he had had time to speak to the physicalist. I said that was fine. He made the appointment and an appointment with the GP to get the referral. I also made a couples therapy appointment for tomorrow. I left my company last October and thought I was going into a dream job. It turned into a nightmare with the most toxic environment. My husband was so supportive, and I was so upset he told me to quit which I did.I then returned to my previous company in a different role and I have been so happy.
    Up until yesterday, I did not know my husband was feeling extremely anxious. He said it started about three months ago, so I am sure the lockdown has not helped. His psychiatrist did not work for a few months, so maybe that also contributed? He tries to protect me from it and then its almost like he explodes? He tells me he knows how unhappy I am which is not reality? I know its the anxiety and this is where we are now.
  30. Redhuta
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    22 September 2021

    Another quick update we returned to couples therapy and it was once again insightful. I am learning more and more about the physical and emotional effect anxiety has caused my husband. I find it takes therapy for us to communicate openly and effectively. I think my husband also is understanding how I interpret his actions which I appreciate.

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