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Topic: Any ideas please

5 posts, 0 answered
  1. Eley
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    4 posts
    15 September 2018

    So here it is my son is in the best years of his life - mid 20's and life appears to be a struggle

    This year he has attended alcohol rehab several times although successful for a little while after (few weeks) he goes straight back into a rut

    The last 12 months he has tried several anti depressants and honestly I think it's the worse his ever been, the psychiatrist is trying one more medication and if this doesn't work will come off it. The alcohol craving medications don't work

    need some suggestions as he is stuck unable to move on, he has a steady job for the last 8 years, not sure if he enjoys this atm

    Has no interests, no hobbies and no social life. Obviously drinks to self medicate.

    Have many of you with mental health issues entered a long term alcohol rehab centre with success ?

    He has top private health cover so can access help anytime

    Does anyone have experience with Life Skill programs ?

  2. PamelaR
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    17 September 2018 in reply to Eley

    Hi Eley and a warm welcome to Beyond Blue forums

    I'm so sorry it's taken so long to respond to your post. It's not a reflection on you or your post. It's about how our system works. Looking after yourself is a good step too. So reaching out here is great.

    It does sound like you are having a difficult time in helping your son move on from his life with alcohol and mental health issues. I'm not a health professional, though I've experience with PTSD, anxiety and depression. While I've used alcohol to help my anxiety during periods in my life, I've never used a rehab centre to stop drinking.

    One of the things I do know from my experience of working in the community health field is - you can't make your son doing something about his drinking. He will have to make that decision for himself. And that's the difficult thing - how do you get him to make that decision.

    Maybe it's something you can ask our posters? Have you had a look around the forums? It may help if you can do a search for specifics, e.g. alcohol use, rehabilitation, or combinations of these and other words. The best use of the forums is made by joining in conversations with others - so you can get peer support. You can do searches through a couple of methods - by going to the BB search field at the top of the page or doing a search in google of the words and add Beyond Blue to this.

    Hope some of this helps Eley. Keep reaching out, if and when you want.

    Kind regards


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  3. romantic_thi3f
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    18 September 2018 in reply to Eley

    Hi Eley,

    Welcome to the forums and thanks for being here. I really appreciate you reaching out trying to get some help for your son; it sounds like you're a great advocate for him.

    It's hard to get an idea of your son from one post, but the fact that he's attended rehab several times and tried a number of antidepressants shows me that in a sense he is (or was) committed to change.

    How do you feel like your son is coping now? Is he still interested in change? Is he seeing a therapist at all?

    Personally I feel like some medications and rehab centres can be a little bit of a cover - they might look at reducing alcohol intake but if they can't get to the core of why your son copes with alcohol, it's going to make it so much harder to stop.

    While I'm not familiar with the long-term rehab centres or LifeSkills, I can recommend this resource. If you haven't tried them already they might be able to give you an idea of the next best step -


    If you scroll down the bottom of the page you'll see the ADIS (Alcohol and Drug Information Services) and the phone number for your state. They do both intake, advice, assessment and referral so hopefully will be helpful to you.

    Hope this helps,

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  4. cdtofi
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    18 September 2018 in reply to Eley

    Hi Ely

    My experience I was addicted to Alcohol in my 20-30's.Drunk 6 nights a week. Just so that I could dull the pain for a little while.

    Have you thought of him dealing with his underlying issues. My thoughts are that we do everything for a reason, well I know that I surely did.

    Not sure if my thoughts have helped but can only hope that you understand that their is someone out here that can relate to your problem.

    I have never known anyone that has recovered or been in rehab, but thats only because I dont know anyone.

    Good Luck

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  5. Eley
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    19 September 2018 in reply to PamelaR
    Thanks all for your feedback, I will take all your ideas to consideration

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