So I was talking to a friend of mine tonight and she told me some things that I’m a little conflicted about. So this friend and I go to uni together and in our extended group of friends is her ex as well. He is a good friend of mine too, and they’re both on good terms now too.
So she told me tonight that I couldn’t tell anyone or say anything but that he has been having a really hard time and is really depressed at the moment. He lost one of his best friends to suicide last year and apparently hasn’t been the same since.
He puts on an outward joking, happy persona - I never would have guessed he even knew what the emotion sadness was, but here he is struggling really extensively. The issue is, he doesn’t want to get help. My friend (his ex) has told him on a number of occasions to go see someone or talk to someone but he just says that his mates are enough.
My friend is really worried about him and the more she told me, the more I’m worried about him as well. But he’s not really listening to her. Theyre not on the best of terms (recent split) and she is the only one he knows knows about his depression.
Heres the conflict - I would love to be able to help him or even just talk to him, but we’re not that close. We never talk for the sake of talking. I don’t even know how I would begin to address the conversation. Is it even my place? I mean in theory, I shouldn’t even know - I only do because my friend was getting really anxious holding all of this
any advice would be appreciated,