I need some advice on this one.
I had serious depression some years back and suffer from anxiety. I've pretty much isolated myself and am housebound but am happy or content living in my bubble. It is a far cry from where I was a few years back and it is just refreshing to wake up every morning with no anxiety issues and to not have spells of depression and sleeping my days away. All in all, I've carved out a life that I quite enjoy now and I am content.
The problem is, is that family and friends constantly find this unacceptable. I'm not the same person I used to be (to them) as understandably so because I don't go out, don't socialise, don't go to family gatherings and don't see anyone. This is the opposite of the person I used to be.
In my darkest days, all i wanted to do is feel like I used to feel and wake up feeling normal and get through the day. For the past few years I've regained that "normal" feeling on a day to day basis and I find things in my life that excite me. For me, my life is now fulfilling. It is certainly not ideal and I do miss a lot of things I used to do or be, but I am content and far far removed from where I came from.
The problem is, to those on the outside, I am wasting away, throwing my life away, a shadow of the person I used to be, unhealthy, isolated etc. I've cut off personal contact with a lot of family and friends and they find this unacceptable and no matter what I say, they NEVER understand. I TOTALLY understand their point of view and if I were in their shoes, I would feel exactly the same. However, the cycle is a great cause of frustration and anger for me. By "the cycle" I mean, I go through the same crap every 6 months it seems where I have a big fight with either a friend or a family member about my life or situation. It causes me A LOT of stress and a great deal of anger. I'm at the stage where I am about to lose a friend because they just don't get it and the constantly feel as they need to go behind my back to my family. I've had 4 episodes where this person has done the same thing and after each time they have said, "ok, i won't interfere any more". Then 6 months goes by and it is as if the previous times never happened. I've already lost very close family members because they just fail to understand and their solution is to just not have any contact at all (I've always had contact, just not in person). If it is not my friends, it is family interfering. Why can't they just accept it?