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Topic: Friend is being abused to the point of suicide

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  1. fullsunn
    fullsunn  avatar
    1 posts
    1 May 2019

    Hi, thanks for taking the time to read this post. My apologies if this is in the wrong topic or anything like that !!

    My friend has been emotionally abused by his father for most of his life. I only just found this out last year, but in the last six months or so, the abuse had gone from tolerable for him to soul-crushing. I won’t go into details, but it’s bad. He’s being manipulated and torn and it’s just awful

    He hates himself bc he believes all the shitty lies his father tells him and he covers it up w/ shitty millennial humour. Tonight, he told me he’d do anything to stop hurting. Like he was begging to die because he doesn’t see the point in anything. I know he was being serious and I’m scared.

    He doesn’t have many friends who know about his situation, and I’m just about the only person he can turn to. I really want to help him, but I’m honestly not the best person for support. I shut down sometimes, and I get really scared that on a bad day , something’s going to happen to him.

    We’re still minors, so professional help is pretty impossible. Plus he refuses to get help out of fear of his dad. Our school is largely not understanding of mental illnesses and the teachers are kinda useless.

    I keep telling him to get help and get out of there but he’s staying bc his mom and siblings are still there. The abuse is only directed at him though.

    Is there anything I can do to help him? Like an online therapist or an anonymous abuse support group or ?? Or should I tell our school councillors about his situation ????

  2. Sophie_M
    Sophie_M avatar
    3423 posts
    1 May 2019 in reply to fullsunn
    Hi fullsunn,

    Welcome to the Beyond Blue online forums. We are sorry to hear about what your friend is going through. It sounds like you have been such a strong support for him and it is so brave of you to reach out here. 

    If you feel that your friend is not able to keep themselves safe from acting on their thoughts about suicide or self-harm, this is an emergency and you need to call 000 (triple zero) immediately. If you’re comfortable, reaching out to your school councillors can also help your friend in accessing the support he needs. If you are struggling to make these steps please call us on our 24/7 Support Service on 1300 22 4636 or speak to us on email or Webchat (3pm – 12am) at http://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support and we can help connect you to the right support.

    Kids Helpline (1800 55 1800) is also another great resource which offers free phone counselling services 24/7 or you could also contact them via email or webchat through their website: https://kidshelpline.com.au/

    Check back in to let us know how you are going when you feel up to it.
     

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