google search for "free resources for australian domestic violence sufferers"
Mission Australia seem to have a search engine that may benefit your
research on DV and seeking allies on your mission.
Really isn't my field Unsure77, just so you know, but I have experienced a lot of DV from a parent a long time ago.
We tend to respond with flight/fight/freeze/fawn.
We run away, or we fight, or we freeze, or we try to appease. Are the four main responses to being threatened.
So we need to both ramp up our perception of being threatened so that we notice the early warning signs of HER becoming more abusive, so that we can start calming techniques.
But we don't want to be so nervous that we cannot control our responses, because we really need to control our responses when dealing with violent people.
So risks are very high.
You need to know things like...
What triggers the other person? What calms them down?
How do I know, what to avoid, so that I don't trigger them.
How do they know that they are triggering me?
You really need allies more powerful than me!
Police, government services, quick access to help lines.