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Topic: Help needed

  1. Unsure77
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    29 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    I've just done it dng

    it has come up with adventurer ISfp-a/ISfp-t

  2. Guest9337
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    29 July 2021 in reply to Unsure77

    Overall do you feel comfortable with that description of adventurer?

    Which parts work best for you?

    Do any of the weaknesses align with what you perceive of yourself?

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  3. Unsure77
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    29 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Most part seem accurate, I do worry about what people think, I do worry if I upset somebody. I think I'm more turbulent (t).

    i don't like confrontation so I do along with most things to keep the flow going

  4. Guest9337
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    29 July 2021 in reply to Unsure77

    Cool, lets explore the ideas.

    Mostly accurate. Which particular words are perfectly accurate or closest to perfectly accurate?

    "I do worry about what people think." > you consider other people, that's good news. Consider oneself too.

    "I do worry if I upset somebody." > If you take someone body elses upset attitude into yourself, that can be hard work. Notice predicting worrying things, react by planing/goal for more comfortable outcomes instead.

    Maybe, ... Keep the flow going through cooperation, when confrontation happens use your consideration for all sides of the situation, especially yourself.

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  5. Unsure77
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    30 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Morning dng

    I thought I would take the test again this morning being a new day and this time I certain up as an entertainer esfp a and t

    reading both adventurer and entertainer I have very strong traits in both

  6. Guest9337
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    30 July 2021 in reply to Unsure77

    Yawn, scratch. I'm still waking up - sleep apnea aint conducive to intelligent posting. Coffee in hand I ask - what you doing today to meet your values and goals U77?

    Adventuring and entertaining in which ways?

    dng.

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  7. Unsure77
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    30 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Well I got the motivation to go out and work, had a nice chat with the customer, spoke to a very good mate that is helping me with all this aswell. The good thing about chatting to him is that he has met her and spoken to her and known what I have been through emotionally since I first met her, but I definatley think he has had enough of hearing about her and me saying I still love her.

    Why cant I stop looking at the sky and talk to her tell her how I feel. The stockholme syndrome is seeming very real.

    Or is it just that I can't handle the fact I couldn't fix it.

  8. Guest9337
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    30 July 2021 in reply to Unsure77

    I advise you that She is outside your control, acknowledge that and work on what you can control.

    I cannot stop Australia spending billions of dollars on military expenditure, so I must just let it go.

    You have used your consideration of others to see that your very good mate has had enough of hearing you talking about Her. Go deeper and for your good mate, drop the subject of Her when around him, concentrating instead on a good friendship with him. What's he like doing/talking about?

    dng.

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  9. Unsure77
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    30 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337
    He loves motorbikes, so have been talking about that, I have a goal to redo my licence and go riding with him
  10. Guest9337
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    30 July 2021 in reply to Unsure77

    Sound great mate. I got my motobike license so I could work as a postie deliverer long time ago. Full class, but never ridden bigger than a 250cc honda.

    There is something very liberating about riding bicycles and motorbikes. I love to lean into the curves.

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  11. Unsure77
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    30 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337
    I rode motorbikes years ago loved it. It's very liberating. I do miss it and it will open up doors for other friends potentially.
  12. Guest9337
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    30 July 2021 in reply to Unsure77
    Bak in the day I always liked the 2 stroke rippers, like the kawakisaki ninja's or the cbr hondas or the yamaha rz 250 I vaguely recall. Dad had me on the back of the rz250 going down a hill, told me later we got up to 175 kmph. oops, i never drive that fast.
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  13. Unsure77
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    30 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337
    They were fast bikes I was getting around on a 600 ninja for a while I loved it, bit over powered for the l's I had but it was great.
  14. Guest9337
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    30 July 2021 in reply to Unsure77

    I've had my days of going fast, am quite content to putter along at appropriate speeds. Still feels nice to lean into corners on my bicycle even at 15 kmph. Same kinda feeling, following that line.

    Great to hear about communication with customers, business needs cash flow more than anything else.

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  15. Unsure77
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    I'm more interested in the cruise side of things with my mate fast isn't nessacery I have nowhere to be.

    yeah cash flow is important, I'm going to go out work today I have nothing else to do try keep my mind active

  16. Unsure77
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Morning dng

    i keep getting this gut feeling that she is going to reach out to me to see me again. Maybe it will be to say I want that two way street or it will be to say you have killed me and hurt me.

    or see what you have up .

    i don't know why but that feeling generally isn't wrong.

  17. Unsure77
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Hi dng

    i was just reading the thread on my bi polar partner, gas lighting from Jupiter. Wow that sounds exactly like what it was like for me apart from the time and I couldn't have a phone without it being on speaker. Also she didn't trust me because of what happened.

  18. Guest9337
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Unsure77

    good Midday to u77.

    How's the day going mate? Great to see you relating with another thread.

    What's your goals today?

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  19. Unsure77
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    I went to go to work do do a fallen tree but when I got there the tree was bigger than the Realestate allow for money wise so it needs approval. Just been speaking to my mate about bikes, him and his son are going to find me a good one. Mid life crisis to a degree but also need to get my head out of the space it is in.

    My kids are coming over for dinner tonight, I look forward to seeing them. I'm having a bad day emotionally.

  20. Guest9337
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Unsure77

    Hi U77. I am having a bad day emotionally too. Suffering emotional abuse from inconsiderate people.

    You enjoy that time with your kids, you worked smart/hard to keep that right!

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  21. Unsure77
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337
    I'm sorry to hear your having a bad day, if you want to chat I'm happy to listen as you have been there for me.
  22. Unsure77
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Unsure77

    I hope I haven't upset you in anyway dng.

    You have done a lot to help me, I'm sorry If I have.

  23. Guest9337
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Unsure77

    Hi U77. Be sure that our relationship is all perfectly fine mate!

    U are invited to say gday over in my anti-movement thread. I'm having a party there tonight.

    love dng.

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  24. Unsure77
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337
    Thanks dng see what te the kids leave, what time does it start?
  25. Guest9337
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Unsure77
    It's one of those 24 hour parties. byo.
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  26. Unsure77
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    I f'd up dng I sent an email to see if she is ok and I got a reply of your nothing you never were the man sitting by her side is the man that should have been there from the start.

    this is so heartbreaking. And devastating, that I meant that little to her. I'm crushed internally completely crushed.

  27. Guest9337
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Unsure77
    Sometimes you just gotta get back on the bike and go for a ride, perhaps to a friends party?
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  28. Unsure77
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    31 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337
    I spoke to my good mate about it and he seems to think it was to hurt me because they know sentimental and emotional. As he said if she has moved on that quick I obviously didn't wan much to her, doesn't make it any easier what was said but atleast I know I guess.
  29. Unsure77
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    1 August 2021 in reply to Unsure77

    Arvo dng,

    I have found it very hard to come to terms with her moving on already as I don't know if it is true and am I being told that to really hurt me because they know it will. Or realising if she has I really couldn't have meant much to her at all.

    i don't know what hurts more.

  30. Guest9337
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    1 August 2021 in reply to Unsure77

    Arvo U77,

    I have found it quite challenging to negotiate discussions with lying/abusive people, because it hurts me and them to see truth through lies. Realisations about meanings are themselves welcomed feelings.

    I know what benefits some...

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