Hi Adaline and welcome to Beyond Blue
Thank you for sharing your story and being so thoughtful for your husband's mental condition.
To be honest, I'm not sure exactly what mechanisms you can put in place to ensure things are okay for him. Maybe there are others in the forum community who can share their experiences with you. My thoughts are I would possibly:
Make sure there is a list of contacts available for him to phone or to have online chats with, e.g.
- Lifeline 13 11 14 or chat online www.lifeline.org.au/Get-Help/Online-Services/crisis-chat
- Beyond Blue Support Services 1300 224 636 or chat on line 3pm-12pm 24/7 www.online.beyondblue.org.au
- Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467 (or if he is in danger of hurting himself to go to emergency services 000)
Maybe set up a regular time to have contact with him to see how he's going. My thoughts are though, he sounds a little strong willed and may try to manipulate you. Are there Mental Health Carers in your community that could visit him?
Try to talk to him about getting back to his psychologist. Though again, he'll only do this if he wants to. There is going to be no way you can make him do it.
I also think you might need to do something for yourself, e.g. talk to someone about your experiences and what you're doing. Sometimes having a psychologist (someone removed from the relationship) may help you to see things in a different perspective.
Not sure if any of these things have helped Adaline. Keep reaching out though. I'm sure others will add their ideas here for you. Alternatively, feel free to browse the forums and threads and to join discussion that relate to your situation.