Hi, I thought about asking for some advice cause I'm at a bit of a loss here, I've only been with my partner a few months, & he's told me from the beginning that he gets sad sometimes.
We have a long distance relationship & see each other about twice a month, which is hard in itself, but we talk every single day, though I've noticed lately the times he's been feeling down have been more and more.
Little comments & what I would consider minor things seem to trigger a mood swing, especially if he's been drinking.
He was overweight as a kid and still has pretty big issues with that, even though now I would describe him as probably underweight, & tells me all the time how he hates the way he looks, so he gets quite down when he sees a reflection of himself. He's super hard on himself & constantly puts himself down.
He also thinks he's such a burden on me & his friends when he gets down, thinks that people don't like him, & has said multiple times how he feels like he can't enjoy anything anymore.
I've spent hours talking through things with him, but he's afraid to see a doctor because he thinks it'll confirm that there's "something wrong" with him or that he's "a broken person". Today he confessed he's had suicidal thoughts, though said he could never go through with it.
It's super scary, & I've never been in a situation where the person I care about the most is having such an awful time. He knows I'm here for him, that he's not a burden to me, & how I find him incredibly attractive, but I feel like I'm not able to support him as much living 1500kms away. He won't open up to his friends (who are lovely & supportive) so I'm the only one he talks to about anything.
I've tried doing some research, talking to his friends, asking him to see a doctor, telling him how important his is to me, but is there anything else I can do to help him that I've overlooked? I feel a little overwhelmed & extremely helpless, especially living so far away from him at the moment.
Thanks so much for any tips or advice!