Thank you for taking the time to reply to my post.
My field of work is psychology related and I have encouraged my mother for many, many years to seek help. She has only now found a psychiatrist she likes. She has seen many doctors over the years with only a few 'working out'. She is extremely picky with the health professionals she sees. For example, if the psychologist is overweight, she won't continue seeing them because she believes they obviously cannot help themselves, so how can they help her.
I have been encouraging her since she moved interstate to be closer to me to get active in the community. Bringing her pamphlets of community houses, talking about volunteering. She never follows this through. The only contact she really has is her online dating - read into that what you will.
A few months ago when she was suicidal I involved a local social worker, but Mum has never followed this contact up.
She has no friends in the area, but that is also because she is new. However she has been here for over a year and made no effort at forming bonds. Not that she had many friends where she was. She has a habit of burning many bridges, and struggles to maintain intimate relationships.
I guess what I am trying to say is that, I have tried all of this. I have tried to get her additional support, but it seems unless I carry her to and fro she will not do this on her own. I even paid for her private health for months in case she wanted to go into hospital, but she decided against this. The saddest thing is now upon reflection and more understanding of BPD, I realise I have been perpetuating this unhealthy cycle by responding so quickly to her cries of distress and attempting to 'fix' the situation.
I will consider stopping by her place for coffee, but I might consider calling to talk first and then reassess how I feel. I just feel that I have no strength left for this anymore.