My dad is in his early 50's, and as long as I can remember has been miserable. My mother says it hasn't always been like this, it has become worse over time.
I think he's always stressed about money and has a weird amount of pride so never wants to seem like he's not coping with something. He's very superficially happy when he's around family, but then he goes home and retreats to his anger and misery.
I've brought him books on getting help for depression and anxiety- but he's not interested and won't even admit there a possibility he has these issues.
He is Greek, and so is his doctor. I think the cultural aspect plays a big part in this and doesn't want to appear weak. He also has diabetes and high cholesterol, which makes it worse.
My mother and he had never really seen eye to eye on how to raise my siblings and I, which causes so many issues as well. We're all grown up now (16-25), but he still insists on controlling and babying us, whereas she is more relaxed and lets us live our lives.
My biggest concern is that my mother will leave him. He's very aggressive and difficult to talk to and get along with. He is under the impression that everyone hates him and he's a bother, and that we love our mother more. While this is not true, but it is not hard to see where he gets the impression, as its very hard to have a conversation with him, and easy to talk to her.
My mother and he are always fighting and can never seem to see eye to eye. She is very patient with him even though he's very difficult, but I see one day her giving up and leaving.
Any advice from anyone who has been in a similar situation would be great.