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Topic: Are you supporting a depressed partner? My tips from 18 years of experience

  1. Sophie_M
    Sophie_M avatar
    6126 posts
    13 October 2021 in reply to Bonnie B
    Hi Bonnie B,

    Thank you for sharing this here. It sounds like a really difficult situation, and we really hope the advice and shared understanding above is helpful to you. 

    We just wanted to reach out and encourage you to start a thread of your own on this topic, it might be easier for other community members to spot it, and I'm sure many of them would love to offer their support and understanding. 

    We also think it's worth reaching out to the Beyond Blue counsellors to talk this through on 1300 22 4636. Their support is absolutely for you, as well as for your husband. As Carmela has mentioned in her post, taking care of yourself is extremely important, and this includes reaching out. Carers Australia could be helpful, on 1800 422 737 (weekdays from 8am to 6pm AEDT).

    Thank you again for sharing. The forums are a really safe and supportive space, and you never know how your words might helps someone else. 

    Kind regards,

    Sophie M
  2. Bonnie B
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    4 posts
    13 October 2021 in reply to Sophie_M

    Hi Sophie- thanks for your reply. This probably sounds like a silly question, but how do I start a new thread? I have looked for the relevant tab on this page but can't find it.


  3. quirkywords
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    13 October 2021 in reply to Bonnie B


    Hope you can read this it is from the FAQ thread. Please ask more questions if you want.

    How do I start a new thread?
    At the top of each section is a blue "new thread" button. Clicking on this will open a dialog box for you to start a new thread. You need to be registered as a member and logged in to see this button and post. You can start new threads in any section, except for the Long Term Support Over The Journey section, where the new thread button has been disabled. Please also read through our tips for writing threads here.

  4. Meggsy123
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    5 posts
    5 December 2021 in reply to Carmela

    Thank you - this is very helpful. Eloquent and practical.

    My husband has depression AND AUD - Alcohol Use Disorder - formerly known as alcoholism.

    It makes me ANGRY - and this is such a destructive emotion from which absolutely no good comes, of course.

    Any advice with how to STOP feeling angry?

  5. Bonnie B
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    4 posts
    18 January 2022 in reply to Wife Lil
    Yes I agree Wife Lil and thankyou for your post. The emotional burden I too carry having a husband with depression for 40years + is enormous and exhausting. I'm going to take your advice and take my foot off the pedal again, I tend to forget to do that when I get caught up in the busyness of life, so thanks for reminding me. Another person somewhere in these posts has advised to "expect nothing" and this too is sage advice. I often present as competent and coping but deep down I'm just struggling along, just barely managing to put one foot in front of the other! Expecting "something" from him just adds another layer of frustration and disappointment that I really don't need.

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