Hi DrD, welcome
I'm glad you wrote in from a recommendation, we must be doing something right
My wife has depression and I have the more moody bipolar with the swing set of depression to mania. So what you are seeking is what we have endured, fine tuned and posted here in threads I recommend you read. Google what I list and read at least the first post of each.
beyondblue topic the timing of motivation
Rules of conflict is essential for a stable home
beyondblue topic relationship strife? The peace pipe
I don’t know if you live in the city but for me the city works against our stability as does too much debt and keeping toxic people in our lives.
beyondblue fortress of survival
beyondblue topic fortress of survival part 2
Essentially we families with depression need to eliminate toxic people from our lives as we battle our illness to often just survive. This is serious stuff.
Acceptance plays a huge part. To accept these ups and downs will come and when they do a change of environment is essential. For my wife and I as soon as one of us is low we go to our fav cafe for coffee, a park with fish and chips or a walk on the beach. This won’t stop the depressive cycle but it does cushion it.
beyondblue topic variety and distractions
My wife and I are with each other 24/7. We deliberately introduced hobbies into our lives that allows us to spend time apart. For me it’s tinkering in my shed, I even built our own caravan. For my wife she taught herself crochet, paints glass bowls from the OP shop and jigsaws.
Your positivity hasn’t gone away, it’s just on holiday.
beyondblue topic focus and never ever give up
There is also the common issue with the depressed person taking advantage of a situation. Eg if they lie in bed all day while their partner is at work, then they are also capable of attending the toilet. If so they are also capable of makings cups whentheircarer returns home or making dinner. Having a mental illness does not mean their carer has to sacrifice heavily for that illness, they need care also.
Teamwork is a key. Together you can achieve amazing things, emotionally disconnected will result in division and weakness.
YouTube Maharaji Prem Rawat sunset
YouTube Maharaji Prem Rawat the perfect instrument
YouTube Maharaji Prem Rawat appreciate
and many more if his videos. Watch them together.
I hope you get a lot of value from my recommendations. Repost anytime.