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Topic: Struggling to help my depressed/anxious and angry 10 year old son...

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  1. Kookykooks
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    30 November 2019

    My son is 10 and has been struggling with his feelings for about 4 years.

    He has suicidal thoughts and gets very angry (very quickly) and struggles with anything that is disappointing/not perfect. Despite seeing a psychiatrist for 18 months now he doesn’t seem to be getting any better. School has been brilliant. They have been really understanding and know that if they exclude him it is reinforcing his perception that he is worthless so they rarely send him home unless they really have to.

    He recently ran away from school. I picked him up on the road and I got him home. He then lost it and smashed virtually every window in the house by throwing bricks through them. I called the police as I was terrified of him hurting himself or me. The police and ambulance eventually took him off to the women and children’s emergency hospital He was so frightened. I feel awful about calling the police but I was terrified.

    i thought once he got to hospital they would see how bad things have got and help him but sadly I realised they just don’t have any facilities for children this age. He is now home (it happened on Wednesday) but last night he got in another rage and (re)smashed one of the windows. Luckily this time my husband was here so he was able to get hold of him and prevent more damage. I am not sure what to do. I am not sure how to handle it all. We have another son (11) who is really good but I feel so sad for him - this is not a good childhood for him.

    We don’t have family here (we are from UK) so we are on our own and have no respite. It’s all pretty awful. I don’t expect anyone to be able to help here I guess I just wanted to get it off my chest.

    i am ‘used to’ mental health issues as I grew up with a sister who has bipolar so have been through a lot of ups and downs over the years. Having a son with issues - especially going into such rages - is just something else though. I am pretty strong but I fear it is breaking me and I am struggling to know how to help him. I and so sad. My heart breaks. 😢

  2. Sophie_M
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    3414 posts
    30 November 2019 in reply to Kookykooks
    Hey Kookykooks,

    Thank you for reaching out to the Beyond Blue community. We are so grateful you have felt brave enough to share your journey with us here. We are so sorry to hear about your son and his experiences with depression and anxiety. It sounds like you are both under a lot of stress and we can't imagine how difficult things must be for you at the moment. We understand that you feel things might not get better, but they absolutely can. If you feel up to it, we’d encourage you to reach out to our Support Service. We’re available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport. One of our professional mental health counsellors at our Support Service will give you support and point you in the right direction for help in your area.

    You might also like to contact Headspace here: https://headspace.org.au/contact-us/. Their website also has some information you might find useful in supporting young people. This can be found here: https://headspace.org.au/friends-and-family/life-issues/ . Please take care and stay safe,
    Sophie M.
  3. Birdy77
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    30 November 2019 in reply to Kookykooks
    Dear Kookykooks,

    I can only try to imagine how you are feeling, and i would fail. Please know that you did the right thing by calling emergency services to help on Wednesday - it was not safe for you or your boys for you to try to deal with that alone.

    I'm so sorry you don't have support closeby, but i really hope you will use the resources Sophie has posted to you, they are there to help you.

    Is the psychiatrist your son has been seeing able to assist or advise in any way, because this is reaching breaking point.

    Two of my close friends have had similar experiences to you, both of their sons are on the Autism Spectrum and specialised help was essential in dealing with their issues (as well as providing respite for the rest of the family) - this may not apply to your son at all, but i thought i would mention it.

    You have come to a plave full of compassionate people with many different experiences, and i am so glad you are here.

    You need support and care and love just as much as your son does, and you have come to the right place.

    We're here to listen and support you.


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