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    15 January 2022 in reply to Guest_1643

    Hi sleepy I had four chickens and this one was quiet and easy to pick up and hold.He seems ok at the moment.With Autism they don't show much emotion at times.He wants a lamb now as when he was at his mother's just down the road had baby lambs.I had a couple many years ago.

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    17 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark, that is beautiful that he connects to the chickens and it js nice that he had that particular calm one as a favourite.

    I am glad for him that he has animals around, they are so healing.

    The boy I babysat was very naughty at school so his parents got him chooks to calm down. Although at school he was out of control he was so gentle with the chooks and like Ur son he really enjoyed picking picking up and putting them in their home.

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    18 January 2022
    My daughter has a job interview Thursday at some boarding kennels 40 minutes from here.I am so anxious and excited for her as she really wants this job and would be really good for her she got it.I feel so nervous for her like I am going to the interview myself.
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    18 January 2022
    My daughter has confirmed her job interview by phone and in the process discovered she can't make calls on her phone.She should be able to but can't.I leant her my phone to ring.Her anxiety levels are so high at the moment.Shes pacing up and down and breathing heavy.I told her to try doing some yoga and breathing exercises.
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    18 January 2022
    I will have to go into centrelink Friday as didn't fill something in properly apparently.Hope she won't need it after Thursday job interview.I can only hope.
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    18 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69
    I hope the interview goes well Mark, and I hope your daughter isn't too anxious. I really hope she gets the job! 🤞
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    20 January 2022 in reply to Hanna3
    Hi my daughter's interview went well but the guy was worried she lived 40 minutes away .He said he had others to interview and will let her know if he wants her to come in for a trial.I feel bad I live so far away but that is going to be the story for all jobs shevapplys for.My first job when I was 16 was one and half hours away and two busses and didn't stop me.
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    20 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark

    I wander if maybe it's a sign that they'll want her to co,e jn a lot on short notice....I think it's cool she got an interview so qui k and is learning about the process of applying for jobs. It helps to have a parent support u through that experience

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    20 January 2022
    I couldn't take my daughter to the interview today as I wasnt feeling to crash hot after my booster yesterday and could hardly get out of bed so I got her mother to take her or I would have if I could have.
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    20 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark

    I used to drive almost an hour and a half to work through peak hour traffic in the city for years! 40 minutes in the country is OK! I hope she does get the job!

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    20 January 2022 in reply to Hanna3
    It's just do hard as their is so many looking for work now.Shes got Tafe starting in a couple of weeks and hopefully she can get Centrelink .I will see what they say tomorrow.
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    21 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark,

    Is that because of the pandemic I suppose? That makes it harder for your daughter. Working with animals sounds like a good area for her to work. I hope she finds something that suits her, I guess it might take some time. It must be demoralising for her! It's not easy these days is it.

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    22 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    hi mark,

    how did she go? there's always a lot of kids looking for work in dec and jan as they are free from school and wanting to earn some money... but i guess there are also a lot of summer jobs that come up. i remember feeling stressed trying to get a job at this time. i hope that she will find work and it will go really well for her.

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    23 January 2022 in reply to Guest_1643
    Hi sleepy my daughter went ok by the sounds of it the problem is the distance for traveling as they wanted someone to come in the morning then the afternoon.Which will get a bit to much traveling.zit would have been ok if it was once a day.She was going to apply for a job sunflower picking and O thought it was going to be close as I am surrounded by sunflowers at the moment but it is one and a half hours away and 6 hours of driving for me will be to much unfortunately.
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    27 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark,

    That's a shame about the jobs for your daughter. Is there anything else available for her? I can imagine it might be a bit difficult in a regional area. I hope she manages to find something, it would be great for her self esteem and self confidence too I think? 🙂

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    28 January 2022 in reply to Hanna3
    Hi Hanna she has applied for heaps of jobs and handed out a lot of resumes.It is very competive looking for work out here.She starts TAFE next Friday and will go on every Friday for that.She did her orientation on Monday by online.She still hasn't got her laptop yet as the NDIS has been stuffing us around but after talking to them on Monday saying she needs it as way of communicating with selective mutism and yesterday I got an invoice from them it has been paid for and is ready to pick up.
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    28 January 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark

    Having the new laptop when it arrives and going to tafe sound like they should give her a boost! I guess the pandemic has made getting work more difficult.

    What is your daughter going to study at TAFE?

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    I just had to run into town which is a fair drive to pay for the software for my daughter's laptop.The Laptop and case have been both approved by NDIS but the software that was needed on it has pending and they would do it to I paid the money or got approval for it and she needs it for Friday so they said it will be ready thursday.Their is an office for just NDIS at Harvey Norman and has a very nice lady running it.They do a lot of laptops for NDIS.They will reimburse the money if it gets approved.
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    1 February 2022 in reply to Hanna3
    Hanna my daughter is studying Certificate 3 in animal studies.
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    1 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark,

    Sounds like you're getting things sorted. That sounds like a great course for your daughter to study. Well done!

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    2 February 2022
    With Tafe coming up for my daughter Friday I have noticed her anxiety levels have increased.She is breathing heavy not eating as much when she has been eating non stop.I hope all goes well first day.She has to go first and get her photo ID at the library.Then to class that starts at 8:30.The first day will be worst as this is a completely new experience for her at a new place she dosnt know her way around yet.She has Google the map for the campus so will help her knowing where she's got to go.
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    2 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark,

    First days at anything new are anxiety-provoking, but she will be with others in the same situation, all new and anxious, and she'll start her classes and get busy and soon settle in. Young people adapt pretty well. I hope she enjoys the course she is doing, I'd be interested to hear what she learns about!

    I hope things go smoothly for her, the first week is probably the hardest, then everything will become familiar for her.

    Let us know how she goes! Cheers!

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    2 February 2022
    My daughter's application for youth allowance has been rejected. A letter has been sent stating why but we have not got it yet.I don't know if they are going to give her the DSP and that is why.They did not mention that application.So my daughter is still without an income.How are you supose to survive on nothing?
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    2 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark,

    It's increasingly difficult for people to manage in this country if they're not already well off, it really is!

    Have you had any indication of whether your daughter has a good chance of getting the DSP? I know they've made that harder and harder too.

    I know from experience that battling with government bureaucracy is horrible. I hope your daughter gets Some financial assistance from somewhere! How are students supposed to survive?

    Sorry it's all so difficult when it should be straightforward.

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    3 February 2022 in reply to Hanna3
    Hi Hanna no Centrelink has said anything about her DSP so not sure.I know it's so hard to get these days.I will see if I have got time to contact them today.I have to go into town some time today and pick up the laptop hopefully it's ready.I will ring them first.
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    I found out why Centrelink rejected her application for youth allowance as the bank statement she gave them which was a few months old wasn't current enough for them.I jus emailed the most recent one for them.That is really sad that they just reject the claim over something small like that.They could have just rung if this is all they needed.Centrelink is just a complete minefield with no compassion or understanding to its customers.Sending a msg saying it had been rejected with no reason given to a 17y.o is pathetic from a government organisation.

    On a brighter note I picked up my daughters laptop this morning.Shes so happy with it.

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    4 February 2022

    I dropped my daughter off at TAFE ok this morning.She did some yoga before getting ready.I could see she was getting anxious and she was breathing heavy.I hope she has a good first day and that it will be easier for her to go when she gets use to the new changes in her life.

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    5 February 2022
    My daughter enjoyed Tafe.She had to get her ID card in the afternoon as the printer was broken.They are going to split up into smaller classes next week.Now for Monday and school starting for my son.
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    5 February 2022 in reply to Matchy69

    Hi Mark

    That's great that your daughter enjoyed tafe!

    Sorry about Centrelink, people are just a number there. I do feel sorry for the staff sometimes as I've seen people be horrible to them when it's not their fault but yes, it's incredibly frustrating dealing with them sometimes, I've been through that all right!

    What year is your son up to in school? Does he enjoy it?

    Sounds like being a Dad keeps you very occupied Mark, I hope you have times for things you enjoy for yourself!

    🙂👍

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    My son cried and wasn't to keen on going to school but got there in the end.Hopefully he has a good day.It was such a long break.

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