Hi Mark,
I can understand the anxiety you are feeling. Especially if it seems like your daughter is finding school life hard, you worry about the rest of life.
But really, isn't school kinda the WORST part of life?
I wonder, if she likes working with animals, maybe there are opportunities she can explore this year that will provide something to look forward to continueing with in her life. Perhaps even stepping stones to work/volunteering. I guess now is the time to begin to access it, with the support systems you already have in place.
I just googled wires, and they have a volunteer pathway, which begins with a course. You need to be over 18 to do it. Maybe it's something you would like to do Mark? Not sure if you feel up to it, but it could be a way to get your D more involved in caring for animals.
This is a challenging time, and it's good that you're thinking about her future. By focusing on the postive qualities your d has it will be easier to have conversations about what she'd like to do in life.
Good luck with that tho, I can remember some very painful convos with my d about 'the future' !!!
Maybe she would benefit from some careers counselling?
Just try not to stress Mark. Enjoy her birthday as much now as you would have when she was 4. Altho I'm sure there were worries then as well! Every age has it's own uniques worries- thats how we accumulate grey hairs!
Cheers,
J*