Hi all, just a new face here
Personally, I am not experiencing anxiety or depression myself but it is the reason I am here.
My girlfriend of nearly 2 years recently made the decision to end our relationship. During our time together she has experienced episodes of anxiety that have caused some negative impact for us. To elaborate, She describes feeling overwhelmed and emotionally drained during these periods and this can cause her to lash out, personally attack or put down the people around her. I was on the receiving end of this several times that caused a few hurtful arguments. E.g She would call at 4am to angrily criticise me about a relationship issue that was raised earlier. This pattern could occur for days, typically I tried to calm her down but would angrily start ignoring her calls/msgs or argue back when I could no longer endure the constant put-downs.
We tried learning from these and working on ourselves such as having her visit a professional counselor who could provide better emotional advice than I could. I myself tried to work on my anger and not lose my temper when on the receiving end of her anxiety triggered behaviors.
In recent weeks , she told me, due to stress from life,work and uni, She feels her anxiety is at its worst point but that she wants to work on herself and get it under control. However she decided to break up as she feels unable to devote her energy to our romantic relationship ( which is long distance during uni semesters) at the same time and does not wish to put me through the stress of both supporting and worrying about her. She would rather we stay friends while she tries finding a stage where her anxiety is under control.
Whilst it hurts a lot and I’m trying to distract myself.
I’m mainly here to ask for some advice and tips of how I could help her through that journey or pass on to her?
1. What are some recommended resources ,strategies or services that she could try out?
2. What advice can you give partners or friends of those experiencing anxiety on healthy ways to support?
3. Any advice from those who have been in similar situations?
I love this girl very much and miss her, but currently I just want to help her feel that she can overcome her demons and feel happy again.