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Topic: Hi (new here and eager to connect)

5 posts, 0 answered
  1. Jazz22
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    3 posts
    6 January 2020

    Hi all,

    I am new here to this forum. I have not publicly posted out about my anxiety, despite living with it for most of my life. I have trouble being alone (particularly staying at home alone, or going out by myself). This has been an ongoing issue as long as I can remember, but has recently developed into OCD type symptoms. I often feel ashamed or embarrassed that I am unable to complete normal and everyday tasks, unlike others. Does anyone else find they face the same/similar issues? I see a psychologist regularly, but still often give in to the thoughts/feelings or ability to avoid anxious situations.

    I am hoping to connect with people who understand and look for more strategies to assist further.

    Thanks for your time.

  2. bipolarbeauty
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    6 January 2020 in reply to Jazz22

    Hi Jazz22

    Welcome to the forums - glad you decided to connect with us here and take the time to write to us.

    I remember there was a time I couldn't as well complete normal and everyday tasks too - I struggled with showering, eating and doing self care - especially during my first few admissions into the mental health ward. Looking back, I wish I would tell myself to be gentle to myself and not feel ashamed or embarrassed with what I'm going through. When you say you're ashamed, I understand. I have been through those times, and it's difficult to get through it - but you have to know that there is light at the end of the tunnel - and I tell myself that too. Baby steps will help. I know it's cliche to say, but don't be hard on yourself.

    Also with your issue with being alone - do you have someone you trust that can maybe take you out for walks or something, just a suggestion? A walk that is good for mental health and destress too. I love walking and it always make me feel better - I do it with a friend or two like twice each week.

    Sending hugs


  3. geoff
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    7 January 2020 in reply to Jazz22

    Hello Jazz, and thanks to Suzi for replying to you, and can I mention that I also have OCD.

    Having this illness can create many awkward situations and it can make our everyday tasks very difficult to complete or contemplate even in a comfortable situation as we develop a type of fear where people who don't have this illness find it hard to understand.

    We are able to initiate thoughts we had never wanted to create, unfortunately, with this illness once they start we are unable to stop them as they begin to grow.

    Are you able to type 'intrusive thoughts' into the search bar, then a large folder will appear, where you can view many different comments by various people.

    I hope this may help you at the moment, but please get back to us.

    Best wishes.


  4. Jazz22
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    3 posts
    16 January 2020 in reply to bipolarbeauty

    Hi Suzi,

    Thank you for your reply. It is reassuring to know that others out there face similar issues. I have found myself to be in a much better place at the moment by taking more me time and facing some of my fears. I have also found that I can rely on my close friends and family.

    All the best,


  5. Jazz22
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    16 January 2020 in reply to geoff

    Hi Geoff,

    Thank you for taking the time to respond to me. I have begun my search through these forums and have found many helpful strategies. This is such a relief as I have not before found anything online to be beneficial. I will definitely continue my search to see what I can find.

    All the best,


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