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Topic: Hi Everyone

5 posts, 0 answered
  1. Ereegz
    Ereegz avatar
    0 posts
    11 January 2020

    Hi 👋🏻

    I am here hoping to find people to talk to. With every year older I get, I also get more isolated and lonely. It feels like my problems are only getting worse with time, no matter how hard I try. It’s at the point now where I’m becoming exhausted. I’m so lonely and so alone. I only have 2 people in my life and I’m not able to lean on those people for various reasons. Sometimes I feel like I’m so used to being alone that I’m becoming comfortable with it and other times it hurts a lot. I grew up in a traumatic environment where I was not safe, loved or wanted, and it feels like this is just affecting me more and more the older I get. The loneliness causes me to reach out to people I already know are toxic, just so I don’t have to be lonely, and of course it always ends badly.

  2. Clear82
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    9 posts
    11 January 2020 in reply to Ereegz

    Hey Ereegz

    We are all here for you and here to listen. So you are definitely never alone!

    I’m here if you wanna talk more too.

    Also have you looked at the app called meet up it has a number of different things you can join to meet people

  3. White Rose
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    White Rose avatar
    899 posts
    11 January 2020 in reply to Ereegz

    Dear Ereegz

    Hello and welcome to the forum. So pleased you found your way here and want to talk to us. Reaching out to toxic people is not good as you know but sometimes it feels better than having no one at all. It's a really tough situation.

    May I ask about your increasing loneliness? I gather the people who have been in your life are no longer there and has resulted in your increasing isolation. Is this correct? Also what activities or hobbies did you have a while ago? Can you revive any of them. I know it's not the same and not a substitute for being with others. We are gregarious race and need the comfort of being with others.

    Your childhood sounds unpleasant and perhaps taught you to avoid people at times. Being unsafe and unloved is a horrible situation. Have you ever talked to anyone about these experiences? By that I mean your GP or a counsellor. Getting help in this area may help you to settle more easily where you are and give you the skills to meet others. What do you think?

    Having been part of a couple of toxic relationships myself I have some idea of the dilemma you are in. It can be so difficult to move away from people however much you know they are bad for you.

    Can you post in again and tell us a little more about yourself? Do you go to work or have you retired? Do you have any family? What can you tell us without feeling you are unsafe. This is a safe place to be as no one knows who you are and you will certainly not be abused on this forum.

    I would love to hear from you again.

    Mary

  4. StgCrw
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    0 posts
    12 January 2020 in reply to Ereegz

    Hi Ereegs and welcome.

    I’m also pretty new here, and am also having a hard time with social isolation, so it’d be great to chat further if you’re up to it, it doesn’t matter what it’s about

    What sort of thing interests you? It might be worth looking into joining a club, it’s a great way to meet new people, and there are groups for just about anything these days.

    I’m not sure if it’s applicable, but the mens shed movement might be worth looking into, and there are a few women’s sheds starting to appear as well. These are a great way of meeting new people of all ages and backgrounds in a friendly environment.

    Hope you’re doing OK, and it’d be great to hear from you again.

  5. White Rose
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    White Rose avatar
    899 posts
    13 January 2020 in reply to StgCrw

    Hello StgCrw

    Welcome to the forum. Good to meet you.

    Interesting that there are women's sheds appearing. I think women have the same need as men to be with other women in a supportive environment. While the focus is on learning new skills the men's sheds participants have found it a safe place to talk about mental health. I hope women will find this also.

    Mary

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