I understand the process, I have been on many forums and even worked on them myself.
My anxiety, here now, is that I have recieved an email that a post is in moderation, I dont know which one, as I kind of answer a few and then run off to real life for a bit , and then come back. I have lost track what I have posted so dont know which post has been flagged as needing attention. So ... I worry, I rethink what I may have said or done, I become a bit frantic with concern and go back over everything I have read that day trying to work out where I could have done wrong.
It is very much my problem, but if a copy of the post in moderation could accompany the email advice, I can possibly work out what I have done wrong and avoid it in future.
I am spinning a bit off on a tangent with a kind of performance anxiety. I feel confident that the moderation will work out in the end, because so far it has been kind and appropriate, but in the meantime I am obsessing over what it is that is being held in moderation
I know I am not adequately expressing it
I should just await the judgement and stay away until it's sorted