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Topic: Mental Health Assesment for 12 year old

3 posts, 0 answered
  1. Abmaja
    Abmaja avatar
    1 posts
    12 January 2020
    New to forums- Mr 12 has been diagnosed with anxiety, depression and ASD but CAHMS are looking to do a full mental health assessment as he has dillusions that impact sleep and school. I am looking for general advice on the process and how to support my son (and myself and family) during this time. Looking for others journeys to learn from. Thank you.
  2. Lady Nova
    Lady Nova avatar
    117 posts
    12 January 2020 in reply to Abmaja

    Even if your assessments go smoothly, it is an exhausting process. Buckle up.

    My Master16 was diagnosed over most of his life.
    14 months he was diagnosed with Duanne retraction syndrome
    18 months with Food Neophobia
    6 years it was Aspergers
    7 years with Oppositional Defiance Disorder
    8 years it was leaning disabilities
    10 years Autism Spectrum Disorder
    13 years Expressive Language Disorder
    15 years Chronic Anxiety
    My beautiful wee man, nearly 6 foot, is a champion at meeting his own challenges. He recognises his limits and then just pushes himself to do his personal best every time. He may have to try harder than everyone else, or practice more, or try again, or take more time, but if he wants it, or wants to go where it leads, then he just keeps on. I was told he would, at best, be an illiterate adult, but guess what ... when he decided he would need to read, one day, then he would read. Bless him he can now read, he is slow and imperfect, but he can read. He refuses to let the diagnoses win. I think sometimes he runs on pure stubborn :)

    One of the things I tried to do is always be honest and simple explain the diagnoses with him when it is age appropriate and need to know. When he became aware of his limitations I made him equally aware that he has talents, when he was frustrated with the way someone else thinks I remind him that he has an unique way of thinking and that perhaps other people get frustrated too. I make sure when he expresses something unique, funny, factual, logical, that he is heard and praised for being observant/expressive/logical. He has an unique and brave mind and he gets to hear and know that I love him exactly the way he is.

    Being brave through this is not an easy task for a parent. Ask questions of everyone. When asked to fill out questionnaires about symptoms and behaviors keep in mind his WORST days and never downplay how you, the family and he is effected by his worst days. It is hard to admit we are treading water, but we have to.

  3. romantic_thi3f
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    21 January 2020 in reply to Abmaja

    Hi Abmaja,

    I hope you are doing well. I just wanted to check in with you and see how you went on with the CAMHS assessment? While I think I know more about the process and what it might entail, it's probably not helpful to you now if this is something that you've done already!

    Feel free to check in if you like.


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