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Topic: 22 Years old and have been unemployed for 3 years..

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  1. Zing
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    10 May 2021

    Kind of a weird title to start this my first post but really kind of struggling here without any direction. I have been unemployed for 3 years and have no idea what to do with myself. I have tried studying to expand my skills and knowledge also I have re done my resume countless times and applied for well and truely over 1000 jobs since being unemployed. Recently it has been tough, while unemployed I tried to start my own little online business and it was going well for a few months, now it just has fallen down the drain and I don't know how to fix it.. Obviously I could sink more money into it but I have a small budget obviously. I started a new job recently as well it was going great but after a few weeks of working there they sent me an email saying I didn't have enough experience and let me go.. it was just a punch to the gut. It's really hard to get experience when no one here is willing to give it in the first place. My main focus has been in the IT / Admin field just to clarify that. I have been struggling with Anxiety for a long time and I just kinda try to ignore it most of the time.. but usually it get's the best of me and I have a breakdown. Anyone have any advice ?

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  2. Sophie_M
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    10 May 2021 in reply to Zing
    Hi Zing, 

    Thank you for posting on the forums and for seeking support from this wonderful and warm community. It sounds like you have been having a really tough time to get stable work. Work related stress can be a real challenge for our mental health and so thank you for being brave enough to come and share. 

    We think that it might be useful for you to give our phoneline 1300 22 4636 a call to chat about how you are feeling. You can also call Kids Helpline who help young people up to the age of 25 - they are experts at helping young people and are really warm and understanding.

    Thank you again for joining us on the forums, we hope that you will keep us updated on how you are going if you feel comfortable.

    Kind regards ,
    Sophie M
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  3. james1
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    10 May 2021 in reply to Zing

    Hello Zing,

    Welcome, it's nice to meet you here.

    It sounds like you've really been very unlucky with work. Sadly, it can be really tough to find good stable work, and it tends to have a bit of a cyclical effect on our mental health.

    From what I understand, one of the things you're really finding difficult is just working out where to go from here as you're feeling quite directionless. It can be really challenging when you're unemployed to find something to do, and I'm impressed that you gave starting your own business a go. It's a shame that hasn't worked out so far, but I hope you can look at the experience and see what you learnt.

    From what I've seen in my friends who also had similar issues, the main thing is to make sure you're not letting yourself get too disheartened. It's absolutely normal and understandable to feel really directionless when your career isn't going well, but it's also equally important to make sure you've got some way to pick yourself back up and keep trying. Whether that's by finding the 'silver lining' or development in missed opportunities, or finding some friends to distract you when you're feeling a bit busted.

    It can also be really helpful to have a think about where you are in terms of your professional development and what you offer as an employee. Do you have someone whose opinion you respect, and perhaps could have a really honest chat about what they think? One of the best opportunities for development is, perhaps ironically, when you're unemployed. Perhaps if you can get a really clear sense of where your skills are, and what skills you'd like to develop, it may make the job search more rewarding and make it more likely that you'll find a job that matches what you're looking for. It is actually very common for people to leave or be let go, not because they were a bad worker, but it just wasn't the right fit.

    James

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  4. Zing
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    11 May 2021 in reply to james1

    Hi James1, Thank you for your reply.

    I really do think I am inexperienced when it comes to my skills and I could use extra study to open up new opportunities for me. Could be one of the main reasons I am having it tough and maybe I should consider pursuing a diploma. But in saying that I worry about what kind of field would be the right pick for me ? lot's of people have jobs / committed time and money to study and just hate the decision they made and wish they could go back in time and change. I don't really want to become that person. I guess I just have to keep trying things until something really clicks.

  5. Zing
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    11 May 2021 in reply to Sophie_M
    Hi Sophie_M, Thank you for your reply. I will definitely keep that in mind.
  6. james1
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    11 May 2021 in reply to Zing

    Hey Zing,

    Nice to hear from you.

    It's encouraging to hear that you are thinking about just giving things a go and hoping they click. I read a really interesting article about optimism and pessimism the other day - it basically talked about how important optimism is to success. After all, if we don't give things a go, there's no way we'll find any success at all.

    Anyway, it doesn't make it any easier but I hope you can remember that you're not alone in this struggle to find something that suits, and it's not at all a problem with you. Some people get lucky and find a job that they like really quickly. Others find it more challenging and it can be really helpful while you're searching just to find other things to do and other people to talk to. I'm 29 and I have two friends who haven't ever really had a steady job that they liked - both have degrees and are smart, but have kind of bounced around trying to find something that works for them.

    I know you mentioned you have anxiety which I imagine makes things even harder. Please feel free to speak to us here whenever you'd like. Job hunting and mental health can be tough going!

    James

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