I feel you! At 27 I’ve failed at everything I’ve turned my hands to. I’ve had entry level jobs, but none offered me enough hours to thrive. I’ve done several TAFE certs and tried uni deciding it wasn’t for me. Took up a trade and couldn’t hack it. I eventually found a job as a Meter Reader before giving it away to pursue my own business. It was reasonably stable, if dull and mind numbing. I’d have kept it had I known how 2020 would go! I agree with Soberlicious96, it doesn’t seem like you’re failing at all. You’re actively trying to find work and keeping the study going, that’s to be commended.
Like you many of my “friends” cough.. “acquaintances” have it together, but we all run our own race. Meetup.com used to be good for meeting people around the city areas before the pandemic hit. Free learn to dance events, board game meetups, exercise groups. Many people I met through there complained of the same difficulty forming deep and meaningful connections. Often no one steps forward to organise a meetup. Being proactive and leading is a way to gain a social circle.
It’s worth reminding ourselves that people can be completely miserable in relationships, just dig around this site. At 23 I did meet someone, but that encounter once finished only left me more lonely and miserable than before. That’s not to say you shouldn’t try, but keep it in perspective. Try online dating, just start and don’t worry too much about rejection, it’s going to happen, you’re building communication skills.
You say you have nothing to offer, but that’s never true, at the very least you can offer you as another human being. There’s always the little things you can add: Emotional support, time & commitment, laughter, cooking, cleaning, transport. The biggest thing you can offer is confidence in yourself. We all want someone to enjoy the journey with, which means we must learn to enjoy it with or without!
I reckon we should all keep at least one hobby. Could be: a language, an instrument, cooking, volunteer work, a hobby business, a craft, programming, drawing, gardening or community sport.These skills give us something to exhibit and thus a sense of self-esteem at a lower level of responsibility. People invest in their interests because their interests build identity.
I’ve been there crying myself to sleep, too many times. Try practising mindfulness and gratitude meditation. Get involved in a book, a novel that can transport your mind away.