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Topic: I am too stupid

3 posts, 0 answered
  1. Zoneey
    Zoneey avatar
    10 posts
    16 April 2021

    I think I am more stupid than average.

    1. I am not used to more than a week’s work

    2. I always make stupid mistakes

    3. My friends are so much more independent and better. My family too

    4. I am not good enough

  2. Croix
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    Croix avatar
    10009 posts
    16 April 2021 in reply to Zoneey

    Dear Zoneey~

    When I was younger I found I was absolutely hopeless at any sport such as cricket or tennis, and considered I was a bit of a failure as a result. After all the other students could go on the cricket field or tennis court and hit the ball where the wanted, looked easy until it came to my turn.

    I never had my eyes tested until I was around 15 when I had difficulties reading the blackboard, then looking down at my work on my desk.

    It turned out I had an eyesight problem, which fortunately could be corrected by glasses.

    The reason I was no good at those sports was because I literally could not see the fast moving ball, and did not realise I had an eye defect, I just thought everyone else was cleverer.

    You too have an eye problem, one that may well stop changing when you are a little older, and there are remedies for it, temporary now, maybe permanent later. It is small wonder you have fallen into the same trap as I did and assumed everyone else was more able, putting yourself down.

    If they can see better it makes a world of difference. It is no reflection on you or your basic abilities, just that your sight is holding you back. I'm sure by now you will have visited an eye specialist and told the future gets better as things stabilize. That getting better does not just apply to eyesight, but all your abilities as a result.

    So please hang in there, try to realise you are fine, not stupid at all, and you will end up just as able as others and in the meantime are doing well just to be able to keep on going.

    Croix

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  3. Sophie_M
    Sophie_M avatar
    5196 posts
    17 April 2021 in reply to Zoneey
    Hi Zoneey, Thanks for taking part in the Beyond Blue forums. We're so sorry to hear you feel this way about yourself. We can hear that you're a very thoughtful and self-reflective person who strives to be more independent. These are really valuable traits to have. It sounds like a really tough situation but please know that you don't have to go through this alone, there is help available to you. If you feel it may be helpful, you are always welcome to get in touch with Kids Help Line. They are a confidential and anonymous, telephone and online counselling service specifically for young people aged 25 and under. We’d also welcome you to reach out to our Support Service, which is available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport. You might also like to check out the Reach Out website. They have a lot of great resources for young people like yourself.  We hope that you keep checking back in and let us know how you are going when you feel up to it. We're all here for you.
       
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