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Topic: I dont know who i am anymore

  1. Unicorndogge
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    12 August 2020

    Lately i just feel like i am getting dragged along not doing anything useful. The thing is i am pretty much useless, my anxiety is bad i cant even do what most other people can do my age and now i just have no motivation to learn because i know i will stuff it up or not go anywhere with it. I dont have a job, i dont study anymore and now that i am living with my nan its like i feel trapped even though i was in a worse position at home with my dad smoking weed with most of my inheritance money. I don't know what i am good at, liking something is not enough anymore because i know that i will be alone forever.

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  2. Tay100
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    12 August 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hi Unicorndogge

    Welcome to the forums, we are sorry to hear that you sitting in a tough headspace.

    Please know that whilst your feelings are valid and it's good that you are utilising the online space to articulate them, you are not useless or alone. Liking something, like a hobby, whilst not 'useful' or productive, can help us find joy and help us practise self-care when we feel like things like anxiety or not having a job can get us down.

    This community can help you connect you to people with similar experiences and gain insight. We can also direct you towards professional resources too, and support you along that journey. Is there anything that you can do, however small, to uplift your mood each day? Self-compassion is key, after all.

    Let us know how you are going, if you like.

    Tay100

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  3. Ggrand
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    12 August 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hello Unicorndogge,

    I feel your anxiety is making you try to believe the way you feel about yourself...Anxiety says we are no good at doing things and we will stuff it up....It’s okay if you do stuff it up..the first, second or how many times we try..the most important thing is to not stop trying...

    Finding something your good at might take some time...There’s so many different hobbies or interests that’s available..and it could be quite fun trying different things, like drawing, knitting, painting, models of cars, planes etc..internet games, gardening, helping your nan cook and learn how to cook for you...

    Volunteer work is good to help you get out of the house and mix with some people...My anxiety kept me at home nearly always... volunteering has helped me feel like I’m helping people...Maybe something like volunteering could help you a little because you’re doing something that helps others...and meeting new people...

    Unicorn, Do you have anything that you do like to talk about or do....What style of music do you like to listen to?....only answer if you feel to..no pressure Unicorn..

    We are listening to you and hopefully we can help talk you through this hard time your going through...

    My kindest thoughts and care to you Unicorndogge,

    Grandy..

  4. Unicorndogge
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    13 August 2020 in reply to Tay100

    Hi tay

    I am okay i guess. I just feel pointless like what is the meaning to my life or me. I draw for no reason, why do something when its just a waste of time if you arent any good.i dont have any purpose, no friends just one of my penpals that i might lose because i confessed how i felt about him not that i like him. I just want a friend and if is the only way to do it then so be it. If i am going to be alone for all this time then i want to do something useful but i know that won't happen because i am scared of everything. No one would want someone like me, someone who is practically hopeless. I dont care if anyone hates me for my negativity because you know what i am sick of it.

  5. Unicorndogge
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    13 August 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge
    I cant take this anymore everything is fake and no one cares
  6. Sophie_M
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    13 August 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge
    Hey Unicorndogge, 

    We're so grateful that you have reached out to our community tonight, we know it can be a really difficult thing to do when you're feeling so low. We're so sorry to hear that you feel like no one cares, but please know that this is a safe space to express yourself, and our wonderful community is here to help support you through this. 

    We can hear how overwhelmed, and how exhausting you must be feeling at the moment, but please remember that support is always here for you. The friendly counsellors at Kids Helpline are always available to talk these feelings through, 24/7, on 1800 55 1800 or you can visit https://kidshelpline.com.au for webchat. We’d also welcome you to reach out to our Support Service, which is available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport.

    In addition to this, our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) and Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467) are there to help support you 24/7 whenever these feelings become too much to cope with.

    We hope that you continue to feel supported by your friends here, and feel free to keep us updated on how you are going whenever you feel up to it.
  7. Unicorndogge
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    14 August 2020 in reply to Sophie_M

    Hi sophie

    I have already tried them and they dont work. Maybe everyone already knows how useless i am so what is the point. When i be nice everyone hates me so then i cant be nice and when i am not nice then its the same. So what is the difference? Nothing, i have a support worker who takes me out she is basically my fake friend because i cant fend for myself. Nothing has changed in the three years i have been out of school, i am still running around in circles. What is the point? I want to know because nothing is working and now i dont feel like trying anything because i know there is 99% chance it isnt going to work. Hate me all you like i really dont have anything to lose

  8. Ggrand
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    14 August 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hello Unicorndogge..

    I am sorry I didn’t reply to you...We do care about you..yesterday I wasn’t in the best frame of mind to reply..like you we all have or are going through our own mental health journeys...

    I can relate to your last post about what’s thevuse of doing things...I often feel the same..I live alone my children all married with their own families and live over 7 hours away...

    I have started doing things like drawing, making a beanie, and a few more things ..then I think what for am I doing this for....The answer is for me..to feel like I have achieved something...My drawing is like that of a child...not good at all...but hey everyone is not good at drawing...but while I was drawing..it took my thoughts away from my head, that’s what distraction is all about..

    Maybe you could make something for your nan...a lovely card, or poster, showing how much she means to you, for taking care of you...I’m certain she will treasure it, and it will make you feel good giving it to her...

    It doesn’t matter that you can’t do things other people can do..We are all different individuals..we go at our own pace, to learn and do things..their is no time limited on learning things...please be gentle with yourself..your not well and doing the best you can in life...and I’m proud of you for doing so..

    Can I ask you what you like drawing, or what era of music do you like to listen to....only if you want to share..

    Taking nice walk with your nan, might help your anxiety by getting our of the house, and taking your mind of your anxieties a bit, plus you are getting some exercise and fresh air...I think your nan would like that as well...

    Keep talking here dear Unicorndogge, we are listening and we are here to help you as much as we can...

    Kind and warm caring thoughts lovely a Unicorndogge..

    Grandy..

  9. Jasjit
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    14 August 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hi Unicorndogge,

    First of all thanks for sharing your story online. According to me, you are a very insightful person who knows what the problem is. I also know it is very frustrating after constant rejections you feel like giving up because nothing is working. If I may suggest something, at least for one day do something without expectation - it is a fact! Frustrations arise when we have an expectation of the result.

    It can be anything. Like what are your hobbies? Or if you want you could go on a self-exploration journey like doing a bit of yoga or meditation and it will definitely make your cognitive fogs clearer. Please keep me updated with your story, I really would like to help you out because there was a time when I was also miserable and depressed internally throughout my early adolescence and young adulthood. I fixed it!!! And now I am just helping others and inspiring them!!!

  10. Unicorndogge
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    15 August 2020 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi grandy

    I dont like doing any drawing because everytime i do it, its not good enough. I come up with all these ideas just so someone can complain that they dont like it. For example i just tried to do fix a painting up for my nans friend and i came up with different ways then they just complain about how the colour has to be same. Well for god sake i was only trying to think of ways how to make it look better. So really its just a waste of time just like everything else. So how can i feel like i achieved something from it?

    Just pacing along is not good enough anymore. Everyone hates me because i am stubborn now probably my penpal does to and i talked to him for so many months just for him to hate me in the end. No wonder i am going no where i am just getting meaner and meaner and when i am nice people are mean back to me so how should i act?

    I have been walking but it does little, i find that walking is the best for me if i want to take away my energy but my anxiety doesnt go away. I want to be able to be like normal people and know that isnt going to happen and i have been trying to get a job but i am so scared to even walk in there. I have Applied for a few but have made an idiot out of myself, thats why i am still sitting here they dont want someone as dumb as me. I am literally 20 and havent done things other people have done and i probably will never get the chance. My life is pretty much a waste.

    I like lots of different music

    Hayley

  11. Unicorndogge
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    15 August 2020 in reply to Jasjit

    Hi jasjit

    Good on you for fixing your problems, i guess some people are lucky and some just have no chance of getting better. SOMEONE LIKE ME.

    I dont really have anything i like, because what is the point when all it does is make you feel worse. Yes i am jealous of people who are amazing at there hobbies. My penapl is one of them he likes photography and is a professional photography. He is so talented and i have nothing only my shity drawings everyone complains about. It makes me feel bad because he is so much better then me and i am older then him. WHY CAN’T I BE GOOD FOR CHANGE?.

    Sometimes i dont expect anything but that doesnt make anything better or go away. Maybe if you were lucky but if your me your stuck for life.

  12. Sophie_M
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    15 August 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge
    Hi Unicorndogge,
      Thanks for reaching out this morning. We're sorry to hear that you're feeling hopeless at the moment. It's sounds like you're in a dark place at the moment and we understand that these kind of thoughts must be quite overwhelming or distressing. Please know that you are not alone in this.

    It's good to hear that you are seeing a support worker. Can we ask if you are receiving any other form of mental health support? Please do feel free to contact the Beyond Blue Support Service anytime on 1300 22 4636 or get in touch with us on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST here: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport
    One of the friendly counsellors can offer you some support but also provide you with advice and referrals for seeing a counsellor in a more ongoing way if this is something you feel would be beneficial.

    We can hear that it's been a long journey for you and you're quite exhausted by it, but in case we can help at all, we thought you might like to take a look at the Beyond Blue "Treatments for Anxiety" page to see if it can give you any new ideas for treatment strategies -   Or some other Beyond Blue resources where you might find some inspiriation:
    Many of our members have felt similar and will be able to talk through these feelings with you. If you would like to post further, please tell us more about what's on your mind and how we can best help you get through this tough period.
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  13. Ggrand
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    15 August 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hello Harley,

    Im sorry that happened to you with the painting...I think she was very ungrateful and critical of the painting/gift...after all the time you spent on fixing a painting for her......Sweetheart please try not to let other people’s opinion of your work get to you...You done something from your heart to give to someone, that is pure gold Harley.....That shows me that you have a kind heart...and you did achieve something....

    Not stubborn or mean Harley..your struggling right now with your mental health, and in these times when we are so down on ourselves, we only see and think what anxiety wants us to...

    I also have a support worker who takes me out because of my anxiety, I feel to vulnerable on my own.,,your not alone dear Harley...My support worker is very caring..is your support worker caring towards you?..Is going to your GP and talking to him/her about how your feeling something that you might be able to do...They can set you up a mental health Care Plan..with free visits to a psychologist, who you could talk your feeling through with...Its to hard to try to manage negativity and anxiety on our own....

    I have so many projects I have started, and not finished because I’m thinking like you ..why am I doing this..The truth is we are doing it for us ..to learn, to get better..to distract our minds away from negativity....

    Is their something that you want to learn? Maybe you can learn online..or if you have an interest in something, no matter how small..maybe you could find a group with similar interests...

    Please, don’t ever give up trying to find out who you are..and what you want to do in life..it takes time..you have been through and going through a rough time...We are here to support you as much as we can...you matter to us, and we care about you...

    Looking forward to hearing how your getting on.when you feel up to it...

    Sitting with you dear Harley..with my care and kind thoughts..

    Grandy..

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    15 August 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hi Unicrondogge,

    I completely understand how hard it is to come out from this habit of constantly comparing oneself to others. I completely get that. Thanks for telling me that. But maybe just for once try living for yourself. I am completely with you and I won't let you down!!

    Your other friends are just being themselves!! So you can also be!!!

    Please tell me more about yourself, I really want to help you out!!! What are the things that you are like - without a doubt?!

  15. Unicorndogge
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    16 August 2020 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi grandy

    having a support worker just feels like a fake friend to me. It makes me feel worse because I know that I am not going anywhere and that even if I enjoy hanging out with here it’s her job so really it isn’t real. I don’t like it but my nan can’t always have me around. If I have friends that would be all I ever wanted but I can’t even get that simple thing that I want. I am scared of doing interviews for jobs and I don’t even know how, I don’t even feel motivated because I don’t see any use of getting a job. Other then money I just don’t feel compelled to because I don’t think it will help out my situation. I already have a counsellor but I only talk to her once a month and I don’t know how seeing another one will make any difference because everything that I have tried that hasn’t worked the first time doesn’t work again.

    People can say they care but at the end of the day they see your ugly and hate you. i think I just have to accept I will be alone forever because that is the way I have been for a long time, fate doesn’t have any reason to change its course.

    hayley

  16. Unicorndogge
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    16 August 2020 in reply to Jasjit

    Hi jusjit

    Well if you’re just not good enough then you won’t get anywhere that is the truth for you to get through what I have got you must of had some talent but if your as useless as I am there is no hope, it’s lie. I don’t have anything to live for really. I have basically lost both of my parents and I only have my two nans and it’s like I am a burden because I can’t be useful.

    i don’t have any friends, only my PenPal online but I am not sure if he even likes me, why would he. As I said he is talented just like you so why do I deserve to be talking to someone so great.

    i am useless and stubborn that’s what I am like and I am getting meaner and meaner.

    Hayley

  17. Sophie_M
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    16 August 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge
    Hey Unicorndogge,

    We're so sorry to hear how low you've been feeling. We think you are so strong to be reaching out here to our friendly community, and please remember that help is always available to you, 24/7, if you'd like to talk to someone right now about what you're going through.

    You are always welcome to get in touch with our Beyond Blue Support Service (1300 22 4636) or our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467), and a friendly counsellor will be happy to talk through these feelings with you. We understand that you've mentioned reaching out to helplines in the past and didn't find them beneficial, but we'd really urge you to give it another try. Sometimes counsellors with particular skill sets, and even particular personalities, can meet your needs and expectations in different ways.

    You might also like to reach out to Headspace, which is an organisation specifically for young people aged 12-25, offering a wide range of services including group programs which are a great opportunity to meet people. 

    You're not alone in this and we hope you keep us updated on how you're going, whenever you feel ready.
  18. Ggrand
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    17 August 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hello Unicorndogge...

    You say you’re a burden on both your Nan’s.Im wondering if you do small things around the house to help them..like washing up, cooking, keeping your room clean...just helping out in everyday household choirs?...

    If it’s to scary to go to interviews for jobs..maybe honey you can try doing volunteer work, one day a week in a charity shop, meals on wheels, the homeless shelter..to get you used to being out and around people..I volunteer once a week at St Vincent De Paul charity shop and it is helping me to get used of being around people and I even had to learn how to communicate with people again...it’s helped me a lot..Is this something that you would consider?

    No one is useless, everyone has something they are okay with..A friend of my late husband used to oil paint over the nice sceneries on calendars, he enjoyed doing that and he even started selling them on line...I would imagine your Nan’s know how to knit or chotecter, maybe you could ask them to teach you..I am sure that they would love to help you..

    Unicorn....As hard as it is..if you can try not to listen to what your depressive brain is telling you...it lies to us and wants us to feel and think everything negative...and that’s not true..

    Most support workers are doing their job only..but a lot really do care about their participants...

    Your penpal is your penpal because he likes you for who you are..not for what you can and can’t do...If he wasn’t good at anything, I’m sure you would still like him and continue to be penpal s with him...

    I hope today is better then yesterday...if it’s sunny..it’s really relaxing to just sit quietly outside then look and listen to the sounds around you.lit gives your thoughts a rest from negativity....

    Sitting with you quietly...

    Grandy..

  19. Unicorndogge
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    18 August 2020 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi grandy

    I do everything my nan says however it isnt enough, i know she is becoming frustrated with me. Last night she called me a bad girl and i didnt do anything other then try to explain something to her. She wants me to get a job and I am trying my best with what little confidence and motivation I have. I haven’t heard back from any of the places so it doesn’t look like I am cut out for this. Even if she does kick me out (she has threatened me a few times) I might be able to get some of my motivation back.

    i know how to knit, I finished myself a scarf 2 months back. It’s rainbow and has Pom poms on the bottom of it. I pretty much taught myself because I am left handed so I just went on youtube and learnt most of it.

    well when people say your back it’s hard not to hear. Maybe I am better alone.

    I like my PenPal a lot. His from Russia and you would think he would be mean like the stereotypes but his not, in fact his sweet. I have had a lot of other penpals but they just stop talking to me after a few days. I have started to see him more like my friend, I told him that and he didn’t freak out luckily. We get along really well the only problem is we live so far away:(

    I am a bit better today thanks grandy

    hayley

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    18 August 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hello Harley..

    You’re a good person Harley...Please don’t believe anyone who says differently....Helping your nan...She is lucky you are living with her....I wish my grandchildren could live with me...but the are 7 hour drive from mine..with this pandemic I haven’t seen them for over a year now...

    You are doing the best you can applying for work..Well done sweetheart...Sooner or later you will get employment..then your life will change....for the better..you had a hard childhood..and you came out of it with a beautiful heart..some become the same as their abusers...cold hearted...

    I started a beanie this winter..still not finished it....but I will...That must have been hard for you to learn how to knit on your own..,and you done it....I am so proud of you for doing that...awe rainbow colours are my favourite...Over the weekend I saw a beautiful rainbow..so vibrant...I took some picture of it so I can remember it when I don’t feel so good...

    Thats nice of your penpal...he sounds like a lovely person..the other pen pals..we don’t know what happened to them...not many people with pen pals talk for too long..I had a few when I was younger..waiting for the postie to come..I got disappointed a lot..they just seem to move on...

    Your last sentence warmed my heart...I really want the best for you...I hope you continue to get stronger within yourself..

    Sending you my care, love and hugs..

    Grandy..

  21. Unicorndogge
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    28 August 2020
    I just talked to my russian penpal but he probably thought i was weird. Who would like me? I stuffed it up now he hates me. I am never good enough, he was my only friend now i have probably lost him. Why am i so unlovable? I just want to fix this and say sorry but he probably doesnt want to talk to me now. All these months i have texted with him then i called and that was my stupid idea and he actually wanted to do it too but now he might not want to talk to me at all. What would i do without him? His the only good thing i have right now. I dont want to lose him.
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    28 August 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hello Unicorndogge...

    Its so nice to hear from you....Thank you for keeping us updated on what’s happening for you..

    Not sure if I’m understanding you...Is this the first time you’ve actually spoken to you pen pal?...

    I notice in your words dear Unicorn that you’re saying probably a lot..which tells me that your anxiety is talking for you...Sweety, I can’t see anything wrong in ringing him...I think in my opinion that that would have taken a lot of courage to do that...and I’m sure your penpal would probably be delighted to hear from you..

    You have been chatting with him now for quite a few months..and he keeps replying to you all these months, in my eyes means that he enjoys talking to you and likes your conversations you have with him...

    Anxiety makes us think the worse case scenario, in our lives...keeps making you second guess yourself...Can you msg him and let him know how scared you feel about loosing his friendship...and how much his friendship means to you and how lost you will be without it..It might help to settle your anxious negative thoughts ..

    Kind wishes with my care..

    Grandy..

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  23. Unicorndogge
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    29 August 2020 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi grandy

    I talked to him yesterday over the phone originally it was his idea but we never went through with it. Then i dont know what went through my head, so i asked if i could call him and he said that he wanted to. I didnt have the courage to call him myself so he ended up doing it. I couldn't come down the whole time, i was laughing and just acting weird. I dont know how he sayed so calm, he was exactly the way he was over text which was surprising to me. It was a bit awkward our call he was trying to encourage me to speak but i just couldn't seem to get much out of my mouth. He told me that he wanted to help me calm down. After we were done speaking i sat there crying and i couldnt get bad thoughts out of my head. I wish they would just go away. I told him that i was sorry for messing it up but he didnt even bother about it. He is so nice too nice. To be talking to me for this long he must really like me.

  24. Unicorndogge
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    11 September 2020

    Am i not worthy enough?

    Is that why everyone is better then me.

    Why cant i be as good as them?

    I will never be like them

    I still be the same forever

  25. Sophie_M
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    11 September 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge
    Hey Unicorndogge, thanks for reaching out on the Beyond Blue forum today. It sounds like today is a particulary difficult one for you. Has anything happened recently that has got you feeling down? 

    It might be helpful to reach out in moments like this when you're feeling overwhelemed. If you're are up to it, we'd suggest reaching out to Kidshelpline on 1800 55 1800 or via webchat through the following link: https://www.kidshelpline.com.au/. We’d also welcome you to reach out to our Support Service, which is available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 3pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport.

    We'd also like to suggest some helpful artices from the ReachOut website that might provide you some tips for coping with difficult feelings: We hope that you keep checking back in and let us know how you are going when you feel up to it. We're all here for you.
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  26. Ggrand
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    11 September 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hello Unicorndogge...

    You are so worthy...your penpal has proven that to you by wanting to help you...He sounds like he cares a lot for you..

    Sweetheart...You do the very best that you can..and that’s all we can do...It doesn’t matter if others are better then you..?What matters is that you try...and you or no one can do any better then try...Please..try hard to never compare yourself to anyone else..You are a unique person, who is cared for by your pen pal, your loved ones, me and others here on BB...You are the only one of you in this entire world..you have a beautiful heart and gentle soul...A one of a kind..and that’s really amazing if you think about it...

    Unicorn, Time changes everything as you get older you will still be you...I like who you are..and I hope that your personality doesn’t change...you may become more aware of the world and people in it as you get older..but you will still be you...and that’s beautiful to stay you..

    I am sorry I didn’t answer your post earlier...I have been a bit down... slowly picking up now...and here for you Dear Unicorn.....Dragons, fairies, unicorns are my favourite fantasy animals...Do you like unicorns?,,,

    My kindest thoughts with my care..

    Grandy.l

  27. Unicorndogge
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    12 September 2020 in reply to Ggrand

    Hi grandy

    I cant do a simple thing and just walk in and get a job. Everyone else can why cant i?

    Why do i cry everytime i go to try to get a job?

    Maybe its because i dont want one

    But what is the reason for a job?

    I will only get money

    I will still be alone

    No better then i already am

    I am confused

    My russian friend likes me but why, i dont understand when everyone else hates me

    The more i talk to him the more attracted to him i get

    His naturally sweet thats why, not just because i am special

    Then i get jealous because i know he is better then me

    I am starting to think i am too boring for him

    I like him to much, i have started fantasizing about meeting him

    Soon i will turn into a monster

    Should i just stop talking to him?

    Hayley

    Yes i like unicorns

  28. Unicorndogge
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    13 September 2020

    Why would anyone like me

    Everything is a lie

    Its better if i was alone because thats all i can be alone

    Can't be what anyone else wants me to be like

    Even if i did get a job i still wouldnt be good enough for other people to like me

    i will just be ignored and rejected again after again

  29. Sophie_M
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    5196 posts
    13 September 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge
    Hey Unicorndogge, thanks for continuing to reach out here.  We're so sorry to hear how lonely and hopeless you are feeling at the moment. Please know that we value your presence here on the forums and think you're so strong for reaching out when you need it. What kind of job do you think you'd like to perform? When making friends what sort of characterisitics do you look for?  Please remember that the Beyond Blue Support Service is available anytime on 1300 22 4636 or Webchat 3pm-12am AEST here: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport. 

    Please check in and let us know how you are whenever you feel up to it.
  30. Ggrand
    Community Champion
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    8611 posts
    13 September 2020 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hello Unicorn.

    Getting a job..if you want one will change you’re life..

    You get to meet and work with people, talking and interacting with people and you never know maybe you will find your best friend at work...The money you earn could buy you a car, nice clothes, time out with your work mates, saving up for something that you really want to buy for yourself...

    Unicorn...Why do you think people won’t like you and will ignore you and why do you feel that everything is a lie?....no pressure to answer those questions...I am just curious...I mean..how could they not like you or ignore you if they haven’t even met you yet....most people are kind, a lot of people are lonely and would love a new friend...

    Maybe join a group of some kind that interests you, drawing, painting, reading, computer...most libraries run courses on learning the computers...Something and somewhere where you can meet new people...

    Unicorn..,you are you hun..you can’t change who you are for any one...You need to be true to yourself...

    Sending you my care and kindness..

    Grandy...

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