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Topic: I dont know who i am anymore

  1. Sophie_M
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    5908 posts
    16 April 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge
    Hey Unicorndogge,

    We're are so sorry to hear that you are feeling hopeless at the moment. Please know that you are a valued member of our community and you are not alone in this. We are also checking in with you privately because we are concerned for your wellbeing.

    If you're unable to keep yourself from acting on any urges to harm yourself, please call 000 (triple zero).

    Please remember that support is always here for you.
    • The friendly counsellors at Kids Helpline are always available to talk these feelings through, 24/7, on 1800 55 1800 or you can visit https://kidshelpline.com.au for webchat.
    • The Suicide Call Back Service 1300 659 467 or Lifeline 13 11 14, are also great supports where you can talk through your thoughts and feelings.

    We hope you can find some comfort tonight. Please feel free to keep us updated here whenever you feel up to it. 
  2. Unicorndogge
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    140 posts
    13 July 2021
    I can't do this anymore it's just the same cycle it keeps repeating, it's like I am meant to be alone.
  3. Unicorndogge
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    140 posts
    13 July 2021
    Nothing I have ever done has fixed me, I keep trying and trying but nothing will ever work for me. What do I do? I am just stuck in this same pattern
  4. Sophie_M
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    13 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge
    Hi Unicorndogge, 

    We are sorry to hear that you are feeling this way right now, it sounds like you are in a really dark place and dealing with a lot. We hope that you can feel proud of how much strength it must have taken to post here on the forums, and what a great step it is to reach out for support. That takes a huge amount of bravery, thank you for showing that to us today. 

    We think that it might be time for you to talk to one of our team on the phoneline 1300 22 4636 so you can chat about how you are feeling. It is ok to not feel ok, but the lovely people who answer the phones can help you process these thoughts and feel better in the moment. 

    If, at any stage. you feel unsafe this is an emergenecy and you should call 000 straight away.

    You are welcome here in this community and we really hope we can hear more about your experiences. By posting your thoughts you never know who else may see them and feel less alone in their struggle. 

    Kind regards ,
    Sophie M
  5. smallwolf
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    5749 posts
    13 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hi, it has been a while since I last heard from you.

    I think it must be really upsetting and frustrating that everything you have tried has not worked for you. At least that is how I think I would feel. And I think that I wonder what I was doing wrong as well. Yet ...

    Do you want to talk about the pattern that is not changing?

    And what would it look like if the pattern did change?

    If you want to chat about anything I am here.


  6. Guest9337
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    14 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge

    G’day Unicorndogge, your amazing progress since Aug 2020 until now has inspired me to reach out.

    Thanks for sharing your experience on bb forums, truly there are known ways to learn self-compassion, self-kindness and mindfulness to combat your lived experience described.

    During my 10 years of study about education and coaching whenever I came across the term “Learned Helplessness” I cried inside. Martin Seligman aimed his Positive Psychology methods at addressing learned helplessness (LH).

    Be careful if you choose to discover The Invisible Shackles of Learned Helplessness by Brisbane Wellbeing Psychologists | Feb 10, 2019 through google searching.

    For the original techniques used to research LH by Seligman include experiment upon beautiful beagle dogs, which are restrained during the experiment. If you are careful with the Invisible Shackles webpage you will learn heaps!

    Microsoft Word - guide- mental Health issues and dyslexia.docx (ready4success.com.au) is a 17 page document on which page 4 publishes a brief on LH which is a comfortable and short read for me and likely you too.

    Learned helplessness - Wikipedia seems to present an extensive discussion of LH also.

    I won’t in this post put up any more things for you to google search for as I am aware that may be overwhelming for you or others, indeed the topic of LH overwhelms me too.

    If you would care for me to present more information about LH and possible solutions towards redressing LH, simply ask. I will pace myself and you/us as best I can.

    Kind regards, dng.

  7. Unicorndogge
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    140 posts
    20 July 2021
    😭😭 I feel like no one wants me anymore. I am just useless, what am I good for. I have no one to talk to because I am not good enough
  8. Sophie_M
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    5908 posts
    20 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge
    Hey Unicorndogge,

    We can hear how much you're are hurting at the moment. Has something happened recently to trigger these thoughts? Please know you are a valuable and appreciated member of this community. 

    If you feel it may be helpful, you are always welcome to get in touch with Kids Help Line. They are a confidential and anonymous, telephone and online counselling service specifically for young people aged 25 and under.  We are here to listen. 
  9. therising
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    20 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hi Unicorndogge

    It definitely feels hopeless when people just don't get us. When you're unique in so many ways, sensitive, different from so many, it can feel like you're one of a kind and no one else in the world can relate to you. I know that feeling on occasion.

    I'm what some would call 'a weird one', 'a bit of a social misfit', 'a bit crazy' and so on. There's always a group of people who get me, who understand, who relate. Such a group is typically filled with 'the weird ones', 'the social misfits' and what some would call 'the crazy out there woo woo ones'. It's amazing how, when I've spoken to such people, they've often said they were regarded as the black sheep of the family and different from most of the people they've known. They never felt like they quite fitted in anywhere. It's incredible how in meeting such people you can feel like you've found a home, somewhere to return to, to remember yourself, especially when you're down.

    Hard to imagine that you haven't found your people yet, especially when you feel such people don't exist. What if they did, they do. Imagine. What would they be like? Do you have any idea? What would they look like, sound like, talk about, dress like and so on? What do you imagine?

    :)

  10. smallwolf
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    5749 posts
    20 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge
    Do you want to talk about what happened?
  11. Unicorndogge
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    140 posts
    20 July 2021 in reply to therising
    There is no one it doesn't matter how hard I try I always fail at everything I do, I want to be normal and happy like everyone else my brother is five years younger then me and his doing a lot better then me. No one will ever want to have friend that is dumb and useless or is a burden.
  12. smallwolf
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    5749 posts
    20 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge
    What are some of the things you do each day?
  13. therising
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    21 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hi Unicorndogge

    I can see where you're coming from, wanting to fit it with everyday kind of people perhaps like your brother does. I suppose the kind of people I'm talking about are more so the people I connect with whenever I go to a particular place that holds what you could say are soulful courses. While everyone who meets comes from different walks of life, we all meet to actually know ourselves at a deeper level, at a natural or soulful level and that's what connects us. In reconnecting with people outside this group, we always go back out with a greater level of self understanding. It's a bit like 'Ahh, that's why I do what I do and that's why I think what I think'. I've found it's self awareness that gradually changes the relationships I have with people around me.

    Have you ever considered connecting with people in search of greater self understanding, outside of coming here?

    :)

  14. Unicorndogge
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    140 posts
    21 July 2021 in reply to therising
    No I haven't, and I just don't think I can I am stuck. I feel like my nan has control over me. I have to cancel the physiologist appointment just because this lady needs to ring up about payments but it's not like I can't do it another time. Now I will probably have to wait another 2 weeks to talk to someone. STUIPD WORK HAS DONE THIS I shouldn't of even worked today but they asked me and has usual I said yes. All this job has done for me has made me feel like I am useless. They throw me on front counter and I am expected to understand this all by myself then the fact that I work at McDonald's I have to fast and I am not fast enough so what do I do then panic. I have almost anxiety attacks everytime I am there and the only reason why I haven't quit is because of nan and she thinks I am selfish but all I can say is she is the one who is ungrateful. I give up my happiness for her
  15. Guest9337
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    1001 posts
    21 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hi Unicorndogge.

    I still like how you express yourself, that's highly readable writing, thanks.

    My spider sense tingles when you say your 5 year younger brother is doing better than you. Well mate that's probably because he has a particularly articulate older brother! Yep YOU. It's a known and accepted bit of educational knowledge that often enough, being able to talk with older siblings helps people be more social, and smarter and more successful.

    You may recall the story of Geoff Hunt Aussie Squash world champion, well he was the younger brother and learnt lots from his older brother who wasn't as "good" at squash after a particular point in time.

    Front counter work at Maccy's is probably pretty challenging and stressful, I reckon friday and saturday's rush hours be very busy. Breathe, breathe, one task at a time, concentrate on that task, get it done, don't take customers insults personally, forgive work mates for they are stressed like you, speak up about small things stressing you or that need improvement. Stay on one task at a time. repeat, have a break! done job mate!

    Happiness is achieved after satisfying work and play and spending time with family friends and oneself.

    good luck, dng.

  16. Unicorndogge
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    140 posts
    22 July 2021 in reply to Guest9337

    Haha your post made my day.

    I am actually a girl and the my profile picture is a drawing I did of my Russian penpal, he wasn't talking to me for a while but he all of sudden came back out of nowhere last week.

    I don't see my brother much anymore 😕 but i don't like how my dad leaves him all by himself in the house for weeks on end. I ring him up every once and again to see how his doing but he somehow seems to manage better then me even though I am technically not alone. I live with my nan but she is starting to get so controlling, I want to move out but I fear that if I do that I won't have enough money because at maccas you don't earn much. I could try get another job but it's like what can I do if I can't do a good job at the job I do now what will I be good at?

    Well yes it is like hell on Fridays not sure about the weekends because I never usually work those days but I bet it would be the same. The problem is I can't really do one task at once because they expect you to do so many things at once and people think that just because it's maccas it should be out in a couple of seconds to a minute. We are so understaffed in there one person makes coffees and the mcafe food. One person is on drive thur. We have about 3 people in the kitchen. I don't know how everyone remains so calm. There's no time to have even one break in there unless it's not busy but even so the managers always want you to look like your busy, if your on a hour day shift don't expect to get a water break. Like i worked 5 hours straight yesterday without anything to drink.

    I don't have any friends unfortunately

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  17. Guest9337
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    1001 posts
    22 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Afternoon Unicorndogge, I apologise for getting ur sex wrong, woops.

    You do have a friend fortunately, me. Im just a bb friend but there it is, something hey.

    dng

  18. Unicorndogge
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    140 posts
    22 July 2021
    It feels as if no one is listening to me, I can't do this anymore
  19. Sophie_M
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    5908 posts
    22 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge
    Dear Unicorndogge,
    We’re so grateful to have you reach out to our community this morning and are so sorry to hear about how you are feeling. Times like this can definitely get overwhelming . We hope that you find our forums to be a safe and supportive space to talk through your thoughts and feelings. Our community is here for you. 

    We hope you know that there is always help available to you, whether it's from our professional mental health counsellors Beyond Blue (available 24/7/365 on 1300 22 4636) or our friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) or the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467).
    Keep checking back in with us whenever you feel up to it. 
  20. Guest9337
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    1001 posts
    23 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge
    If people were listening to you, what might you say?
  21. Guest9337
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    1001 posts
    23 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Evning...

    Yeh your profile pic is well done. I kinda think of all my forumming buddies as penpals, it's probably the most social stuff I do... aside from marriage of course!

    My wife is probably missing me a bit because I went hard core into writing in my anti-movement thread recently, then needed an epic sleep afterwards. lol. still feel like I haven't really woken up since then.

  22. Gab.
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    14 posts
    23 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Yo dude,

    Comparison is the thief of joy and happiness comes from within. Life can get dark sometimes but the best thing you can do is pick yourself back up, learn from your mistakes and move forward. You get out what you put in, just be yourself, try stay positive and do your best xoxo :)

  23. Unicorndogge
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    140 posts
    25 July 2021 in reply to Gab.
    I can never be myself it's never good enough for other people
  24. Guest9337
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    1001 posts
    25 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Yep, Unicorndogge, "never good enough" is one of the signs that some where in your life people need to do better at treating you fairly.

    How long did it take you to draw the russian penpal image in your profile pic, it's very detailed.

    love dng.

  25. Gab.
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    14 posts
    28 July 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge

    I reckon it all starts within. Your thoughts determine your perspective of the world, which will determine your feelings and the way you think that you're perceived.

    But put the rest of the world aside for a second. All that's left is you and your thoughts right?

    Life's a battle, but its not you against the world, its you against yourself.

  26. Unicorndogge
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    140 posts
    12 August 2021
    I don't know what I am going to do. Nothing ever works out for me.
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  27. Gab.
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    14 posts
    14 August 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge
    Could I ask what you mean by that? What is it in your life that isn't working out for you?
  28. Gab.
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    14 posts
    14 August 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge
    And also, can you think of times when things have worked out for you? or when you've been happy or even just at peace?
  29. Unicorndogge
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    140 posts
    2 September 2021
    I am really scared, I don't know what to do😭. This whole world has gone crazy and I don't want to go down with it
    1 person found this helpful
  30. Guest9337
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    1001 posts
    2 September 2021 in reply to Unicorndogge

    Hi Unicorndogge, How ya going mate? I am sad that you are scared, what can I do for you?

    Listen and respond as best I can.

    stay safe

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