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Topic: I hate school, I'm writing this because I feel like I can't talk to anyone anymore

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  1. MacJS
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    10 posts
    6 August 2020
    I never thought I would want to drop out of school, and I'm only 14. School is getting harder and harder and I'm not talking about the work, I'm naturally smart and I'm a really good student. I'm just so sick of school, it makes me wanna die everyday. I feel like I'm wasting my youth by going to school until I turn 18, I hate my teachers and I hate everybody. I used to LOVE school, I use to be excited to go to school everyday until last year, I don't really know why I think and act like this now.
    I guess I've lost movtivation and don't know what I'm doing anymore, I also think I'm not really allowed to think like this since I'm only 14. I don't know what I wanna do with my life either or what direction I wanna go. I want to do certain things but my insecurity makes me feel like I won't be good enough. I feel like my friends hate me and I think I got a real problem going on and I'm not 100% sure on what to do about it.
    I'm starting to become real rude to my teachers and authorities and not paying attention in class anymore, I feel like if I continue doing this I'm ultimately gonna turn out to be a lazy person with no life or job when I'm older. I always feel tired and agitated, I'm unorganised and I just want to disappear, not die but disappear.
    Thanks for reading, I would love to hear other people's opinions and tips on what to do
  2. Sophie_M
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    6 August 2020 in reply to MacJS
    Dear MacJS,

    You say you're not 100% sure what to do with these feelings. We think by showing such bravery in sharing this with us here today you've taken an admirable first step. We want you to know you've come to a safe and non-judgmental place where users give and receive support based on their own mental health journeys.

    Please know there is always help available to you. The qualified mental health professionals at our support service are available 24/7 on 1300 22 4636. You might also like to discuss these issues with our friends at Kids Helpline on 1800 55 1800. Knowing that sometimes it is easier to type than it is to talk about these things, they also offer round-the-clock webchat via: https://kidshelpline.com.au/get-help/webchat-counselling

    Welcome to our forums community. We're here to provide you with as much support, advice and conversation as you need. Please check in and let us know how you're getting on whenever you feel up to it.
  3. Matchy69
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    6 August 2020 in reply to MacJS

    Hi MacJS it is really great for you to come on here to reach out on here. Your post sounded very much like my 16y.o daughter.She use to like going to school and get good marks up to about last year where she started hate going and it became hard getting her to go. I have had chats to her about it and asked her if their was some reason why but says everything is OK at school but just hates going.I have chats with the school like the guidence officer, school nurse and Deputy principle. We have at the moment a plan in place where she goes to school in the morning and does the first session and then comes home and gets slowly extended.It has been working at the moment.She wants to be a vet nurse and that is her goal to finish school and do further study to achieve her goal.

    I was wondering if anything has changed at school or at home for you and if their is other things you like doing that you don't anymore.

    Take care,

    Mark.

  4. White Rose
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    6 August 2020 in reply to MacJS

    Dear MacJS

    Hello and welcome to the forum. As Sophie has said it's brave thing to write your first post and you have done this very well. Sadly I don't have a magic cure. I once asked my doctor to wave her magic wand and she said the batteries were flat. Ah well.

    Please do not think I am patronizing when I say this is a difficult time for you. No longer a child but not yet an adult. Plus everything that goes with being 14. Contacting the Kids Helpline may be very helpful. They help people aged 5 - 25. Have a look around their web site. Sophie has posted a link for you.

    I see you like school but these days not the teachers. Do you think it's possible to concentrate on your lessons only instead of 'seeing' the teachers? I know when something happens to me and I am likely to get upset I find something to do that needs my full attention. No room for the other stuff. This may be a way to get your school work done and show your talents while relegating those things that trouble you to the background.

    This is a time to learn as much as you can. Not because of any future career or to say you are clever. It's to give you a wide range of knowledge and skills that will help you find your way in the world. This is your time to learn. I hesitate to say much about your friends. From my point of view, school friendships have been a source of support and comfort. I still have strong ties to three of my school friends. You cannot change your friends, only yourself. If your friendships drift apart it is as much the responsibility of your friends as it is yours. Be the best friend you can be and leave the decisions about continuing these friendships to your current friends. Life has a way of sorting out these difficulties without us hitting our heads against a brick wall.

    Trying to forecast what the future holds when you leave school is a bit premature. Be the best all round student and you will find the future will handle itself. You have a few more years at school to accomplish this. Then it will be time to make decisions.

    If you would like to continue posting here you are most welcome. I will be looking out for your posts.

    Mary

  5. MacJS
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    17 August 2020 in reply to Matchy69

    Nothing is going on at home, it's just at school. I mean sometimes I just sit and cry at home, because I feel as if my life is so repetitive and nothing is exciting anymore. There's nothing to do at home, the only thing I have for entertainment is my tv and laptop. I tried doing a sport but that failed because the closest training club to me is sooo far away and my school only does football, basketball and netball for sports.

    I guess I'm also sick of people feeling pity for me, a lot of my friends say my life is so boring and would hate to be me and things like that. Which it does hurt my feelings, and I also say a lot deprecating jokes but then say I'm kidding. I don't really think my friends notice or care to be honest.

    I used to love doing art as a passion like drawing, but I don't do it nearly as much as I used to because school has just been so much and I'm a big procrastinator (which I am trying to fix) I am trying to get back into art but it's kind of hard.

  6. White Rose
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    17 August 2020 in reply to MacJS

    Hello MacJS

    However passionate you are about doing something it can be difficult to actually do it when you feel sad and depressed. It feels like a huge weight pressing down on your shoulders stopping you from even getting out of your chair. What do your friends do when they are not at school that makes their lives so interesting? I wonder if they are trying to pull the wool over your eyes.

    It is unpleasant when friends make unkind remarks. Rather than join in making fun of yourself perhaps you can simply ignore the comments. No one will continue to say unkind things if they do not get a reaction. By making remarks about yourself you are, in effect, giving them permission to say these things.

    Perhaps you can tell them of something you are proud of or have done well. Your art may be the key to this. I enjoy embroidery and am happy to show off my work. There are other things I am not good at so I do not mention them in general. I not good with technical things like computers and need my children to show me what to do. So what! No one is good at everything. I know how I feel when someone makes fun of my abilities and I imagine it to be similar to your hurt. I do sometimes make a comment but not one that sounds as though I am agreeing with them.

    Focus on what you can change and where you can excel. The other stuff can wait.

    Mary

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