Hi Liam Lemon,
I think the experiences you describe can be really hard to deal
with and I think as a teenager it’s probably the time when you are most likely
to be affected by those things and when those emotions feel really strong.
I’m not sure if I can make you feel better, but the way you
look is really not the most important thing. The world is so beautiful and so
full of things to explore and things to learn. The people in your life who
really care about you - they don’t care about how you look or what you weigh.
I think a lot of people are insecure about their weight and
how they look in general and it’s really easy to absorb that from other people.
For example, stuff like advertising and movies don’t really help because they
show images of people and say “this is what you should look like and if you don’t
you’ll be unhappy” – which isn’t true at all. And, I mean, it really isn’t.
Obviously, it’s important to be healthy, but that comes in
lots of forms and it’s okay to build up to things. Like just going for walks more
Anyway… it’s okay. It’s okay to gain weight. It happens to
everyone. It doesn’t mean you are less lovable or less beautiful. It’s okay.
I think going to see a professional could help. It’s okay to
feel uncomfortable telling your parents, but it’s also hard to go through
things alone. I’m sure they won’t judge you and will understand what you’re
going though. Of course, it’s up to you and it’s okay if you don’t want to or
feel like you can’t. It’s hard to say these kinds of things in general so
thanks for sharing.
I hope you feel better soon,