The guilt is caused by the person. Not her pushing guilt on to me (or maybe she does) but because she is my grandmother & I feel bad for not being able to be there as much as she says I should be, But as I have grown up I have seen things in her, how she is towards other people, guilt tripping, over dramatic to get what she wants, so I get worried that she does that with me. so maybe she does push guilt on to me.. she always just says things in a way that makes me think she wants me to put her first before anyone, even myself, she always pick on me and says I always have alot to do, when I actually do! Everyday I live like a mother, cleaning a house, watching my puppy, working, cooking, laundry, gardening. (The cooking & gardening help me calm down) and it's hard because she is an elder so she thinks in a different way so will never understand as when I go to her and say I have an issue she just says "yeah me to."