ago, I broke up with my boyfriend because I didn’t love him. He always said “I
love you” but it wasn’t reciprocated. it hurt him. I didn’t want to lead him on. He initiated contact after. we remained friends. got together few months later. Reason: felt guilty.
he said, “I’m always here for you. I still love you deeply. I’m
waiting for us to be together again”. It hit hard. maybe I hadn’t given myself
enough time to fall in love with him, maybe I rushed break.
have said during our ‘2nd relationship,’ that they think he and another girl
were dating because they always jokingly flirt. I understand we broken
up and he thought we would never get together but I was confused & hurt
hearing that, as it goes against him saying,
“I hope we can be together again”. You would not flirt with someone else if
your heart was set with one girl. I confronted him. he said flirting was a joke. He didn’t feel
anything for her, it meant nothing. I took it. It didn’t change how hurt I
felt, but there wasn’t anything else for him to say. I know I overreacted because we weren’t together, he can do
whatever, jokingly flirt or not. But my heart hurt. Why did ppl think they dating? There was nothing physical between them. i was
confused about the idea of him saying he still loved me through the time of our
friendship but on the side, jokingly flirting with another.
raise this issue, we argue. Its led us to where we are now.not together again. I don’t
trust him. I tell him this, and this hurt
him. he bursts into tears. More specifically, not trust him to do things behind my back. He might
say he loves me, but could he still be jokingly flirting with someone else?
“friends”, he doesn’t act like it with me. He always comes for a close front on
hug. He holds me for about a minute- too long for friends. he always gives me a
kiss-cheek, forehead or lips. And after fights, we have make-up sex, or just
sex once a week . It’s bad. I have been told, “you two haven’t set the boundaries”.
I still feel very hurt he flirted with a girl two years ago, despite, I know, being
broken up at the time. mainly because he said he loved me deeply through out it
all. And also very hurt because three people have thought they were dating.
Coming to now, I’m
just confused about this. I don’t want to lose him because he’s
always been there for me . Should I cut ties because I can’t trust him or continue this ‘friendship’ with him, although having fights.