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Topic: Tired Of everything

4 posts, 0 answered
  1. Juice143
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    1 posts
    20 April 2021

    Hi All,

    This is my first post and I don't know what I'm doing and I'm scared. For a bit of background info I am a male that is 16 years old in year 11. I have been struggling with depression which has lead on to anxiety. This I believed has sort of steamed from Covid as well as me drifting away from my friends like they are strangers. Im trying to fit into a new friend group but I don't know whether they will like me whether they be thinking why is this guy its only the first couple of days so I'm very hopeful because if this docent work out I don't know what else I could do. I have a few very close friends that I can rely on and tell them stuff that is important but I feel like none of them understand what I'm going though.

    I feel like I shouldn't feel this I have two loving parents, loving siblings, a good education and stable finically. As well as being a white 16 year old male. I know why im feeling this sort of emptiness but I feeling this for over 6 months now and I feel like there could be light at the end of the tunnel with me distancing me from my friends and trying to find more supportive. I hate going through this tiresome process of waking up going to school gaining the courage to go outside at lunch and recess then not feel like I'm being watched and judged. I know that this sounds rich and that I should just get over it and many people suffer from much worse than me. I am scared that I am wasting the good time in my life being like this. The perfect scenario is that I come back to this post with a more stable life and remember this moment as one of the darkest times in my life.

    ANY ADVICE

    I believe it I form well with this group a lot of my problems will sort of diminish not entirely but it would help so any advice for how to make this one work.

    Thanks

  2. Croix
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    21 April 2021 in reply to Juice143

    Dear Juice143~

    I'd like to welcome you here to the Forum, it is a good place to come to as you often find others with similar problems and can see what has helped them.

    First off I'd have to say counting you blessings, "...two loving parents, loving siblings, a good education and stable finically..." can sometimes be of no help at all. The mind goes its own way and logic like that simply does not come into it.

    Having to spend your time worrying about the reactions of others, joining groups and being judged, and not having someone to talk seriously with makes for a most unhappy life - and you, like every person, deserves better.

    May I ask if you have been to anyone and talked over your feelings? I guess it might be possible you have depression or anxiety as some of your thoughts remind me of the state I was in. Bear in mind please I'm no doctor, just someone with those illnesses. If that were the case the sooner it is identified and treated the better. Recovery is quicker.

    Naturally I went the other way (typical for me) and told nobody, a mistake that simply made things that much harder later on, and I was most unhappy in the meantime til I started to reach out.

    If you have not told anyone then can I suggest you do? It was how I started to improve. There are a few options you might consider.

    One or more members of your family might be good - any you'd feel more comfortable with there?

    Most schools have a councilor who would be used to problems like you are facing, as might your GP. If you want to seek advice outside your normal circle I'd suggest the Kids Help Line, who have trained professionals you can talk to more than once, they are experienced, practical and understanding. You could use their phone (1800 55 1800) anytime or else their web chat service

    https://kidshelpline.com.au/get-help/webchat-counselling

    Sometimes not being face to face but just typing or on the phone can be an easier start.

    As for others being worse than you, this place, Kids Help Line and all the rest are here for people like yourself, you are as entitled to the best help we can offer the same as anyone else, so don't worry about that.

    Getting to the point of being comfortable around others is possible, and within your reach.

    Please let me know what you think

    Croix

  3. smallwolf
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    21 April 2021 in reply to Juice143

    Hi and welcome to beyond blue.

    Croix has said pretty much everything I might have said plus more. Covid might be having some effect with the lockdowns and isolation etc.

    The two parts I want to emphasize - I would say that I have loving parents and yet some of the things I struggle with started in the family. I won't go into detail here though. If you have a chance then talking with a school counselor... might be able to give you some ideas for moving forward.

    Lastly, posting something like you did will seem scary. And putting aside the fact this is a nonjudgmental space, it takes courage and bravery to look for help here and to talk about what you are going through.

  4. Willow Jude
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    22 April 2021 in reply to Juice143

    Hi Juice143, and welcome to the forums!

    I'm glad you reached out and shared your struggles with us. I understand it can be scary, so you've made a great first step in being willing to be open with us.

    What you're going through sounds like it must be tough. I can relate to a lot of what you have shared based on my own experiences at your age, as well as currently, and the thing that made the biggest difference to me was reaching out and getting help. I was able to get support from my friends and family, which then allowed me to seek psychological help. Croix has made some great suggestions of helplines, family members, and school counsellors, and I'd like to add that maybe a teacher or a trusted family friend could be helpful for you to reach out to (as both were in my own experience).

    You've done so well in recognising things that you'd like to work on, and it's fabulous that you feel there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I wish you all the best as you continue on this journey, and we'd love for you to keep us updated and to continue to reach out to us for further support if you need it.

    -WJ

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